Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by meripa, Sep 3, 2011.

  1. meripa

    meripa Member

    My master and I want to marry and we thought of having a special BDSM-ceremony for our friends additionally to our normal ceremony for our families.
    We thought of a jewelry butt plug instead of rings and to celebrate in the BDSM-club we are members of.
    Do you have any ideas how we could arrange the wedding?!
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  2. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    I think it depends on the terms of your relationship. If you're his slave, perhaps you could approach him on hands and knees and beg him to take ownership of you permanently. He could then respond by giving you a permanent collar.
  3. Knots

    Knots Member

    I think if you want to do it with the club you're members of then you should talk to them about it first and formost, to see what could be arranged through them.

    EDIT: I do actually think Sebastian's idea is a nice way of doing it, by the way.
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  4. I second Sebastian's idea!
  5. master jey

    master jey Moderator

    Third to Seb nice idea
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  6. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator

    I agree with Sebastian, though I'll try to think of more. And also yes to Knots, see what works with your club, and maybe if you could arrange to have it take place there.
  7. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    I've heard of master/slave collaring ceremonies where the slave gave all his/her worldly possessions, including his body, to his/her master, who responded by giving back a single object (a leather rose, a collar, a piece of jewelry) that signified commitment to the slave. I suppose other gestures might include receiving the master's tattoo or brand as a statement of ownership.
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  8. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    there are many ceremonies written for such unions, and Sebastian is correct, it depends on the dynamics of the relationship you share with your partner. My advice is that you contact your club, as they may have something already in place for such a thing, and it would take a lot of the guesswork out of it. Remember, most ceremonies are about ritual, so its not so unique an idea that these types of things aren't planned for as a contingency when you own a bdsm club. I know one club in particular here in Detroit performs at least 4 weddings a year on average.
  9. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Basically, think about the sorts of things that happen during a regular wedding, and then figure out a BDSM parallel to the ones you want to include. For example, perhaps you could be led down the aisle on a leash rather than on someone's arm. You remain kneeling while your master stands. And Sparrow is right--ceremonies are about ritual; they act as metaphors for underlying truths. So if you want to emphasize your inferior status, include details that symbolize that (such as kneeling or begging or kissing his feet). If you want to emphasize being controlled by your master, use a leash or have him summon you into the ritual space. Or invert the normal rule and wait at the altar while he marches in (since the dramatic entrance is saved for the person who is the center of attention in the ritual).
  10. meripa

    meripa Member

    Hey thanks for your help,
    but we cancled the whole thing and broke up.
    We totaly lived apart and I think this is the best solution.
    But however thanks for your help!!
  11. Just came across this, sorry it didn't work out, looks like it would've been quite the spectacle!

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