I am a gay male sub in a wonderful relationship with a kind, caring dom. He is extremely controlling and wonderfully dominating when we "play", and even punishes me when I misbehave. This is great, wonderful, I love it. It isn't enough. I've asked him and asked him for a long term relationship like this/to do it in everyday life, but he keeps telling me he CAN'T treat me like I'm his submissive all the time because he loves me too much to treat me as anything but an equal when we aren't "playing". I WANT this to be our everyday lives and I DO feel I'm his equal. In fact, I feel like I'M the one who is treated as more than equal. Being his sub all the time would make me feel even more loved. I have tried to tell him this, but he doesn't seem to agree with me. He thinks vanilla sex is more romantic and loving, even when he provides amazing aftercare for punishments, which are all super sweet. We do so much more cuddling and just intimate touching when he's being dominant. How do I convince him that being his sub would make me feel more loved and precious to him, not LESS, like he thinks? As I said, I have talked to him and talked to him, and even tried to be submissive all the time, such as not doing something basic until ordered to. He always frowns at me and tells me to knock it off and stop acting like his "dog". I love him and definitely don't want to leave him, even if I do have to eventually go vanilla with him. I just want us both to get pleasure out of what has been (and could still be) an amazing dom/sub relationship.