Hello, I've been having difficulties in my relationship and I'm not exactly sure how to wrap my head around it. I desperately need others opinions. I met my boyfriend about a year and a half ago and we met in a super romantic, cute way and we are really amazing together. We met as a vanilla couple but as people, we're very open minded and into alternative things. He is 10 years older than I, but we had something of a spiritual connection. Half a year in, I had gathered the courage to admit to him all my kinks and fetishes and my proposal to start exploring BDSM. And he was all for it! He jumped right on the bandwagon and did a lot of talking. I don't know, he just doesn't seem like he cares to me. It's been over a year now and it feels like we're not making any progress. It seems like he's just an open minded guy, just telling me what I want to hear to make me happy. I never get the Dom vibe off him and I don't ever feel like his submissive. But yet every time I ask if we should stop, if he's really into it... he insists that he is! What he says is very contradictory to what he actually does. I'm not sure if it's he's not as into it as I am or doesn't exactly understand what BDSM dynamic is. I don't know. He also has severe back problems and is not doing so good financially. Yet also insists that he's not depressed... He doesn't seem too depressed either. Lately we've been fighting a lot and I've gotten the idea that it's because I'm not sexy enough. He's even kind of hinted it to me too... I really don't know what to do anymore. I desperately want him to really be my Daddy but I don't know if he want's me as his sub. Do you think he's vanilla or not?? I'm seriously losing my mind over this!