My wife and I are both somewhat submissive, although I think she is more into bondage and masochism than submission, damned 50 shades books. My tastes run more toward chastity, orgasm denial and some lite femdom. The obvious problem is that she wants to be tied up and spanked, flogged, clothespinned and fucked, and it seems at odds with me wearing panties and a chastity cage. How do 2 people with diverging needs get them met? I have NO problem doing all of that to her and using a dildo on her, but there seems to be something about that that leaves her unfulfilled.