I have asked this before, but the thought struck me again when I took the dishes with my Lord. "The Perfect Sub" how should I be? I am a little troll sub, almost pet, a little cat ... diseplin does not work on me and I live to be as sweet as possible. always playful and childlike. and I find myself thinking that this is not properly way to be a sub. I'm too vanilla to be able to call myself BDSM. something I know is nonsense, because a few days ago, I took part in really funny needle play. I will post pictures later one reason may be because I say stop quite often and even if he always is my Lord and I always call him that, we are not in a 24 / 7 D / s relationship. but he likes it, are happy with it. so why do I think that I am not properly sub. and I do not feel it for my Lord, but for all the BDSM community. There are some others who feel that way? and why?