How do you doms know when to strain a boundary, to test the sub, to push her a bit but not to far? It must be so difficult to do with "minor" things like masturbation; something that most must see as a natural thing in BDSM. It's not. Not for me. I can do more or less anything else that's degrading and humiliating, in public or at home, but if I'm told to masturbate infront of someone it's a turn off so extreme as if someone told me to eat roadkill. I have no problems doing it when I'm alone. It's just doesn't work infront of others. Never has, never will. Is that a line you think should be tested? Something so small and insignificant? When I feel the way I do?