The appeal of long-term bondage

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by sebastian, Jun 15, 2010.

  1. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Handcuff freak asked this question in the general chat thread, and I decided to steal it and ask it formally. As a dom, I really don't get why people want to be tied up and left somewhere for long periods of time. I know that some subs find mummification really calming and almost meditative, but clearly that's not all there is to it. So all you subs who like to be tied up for long periods, what is it that you like so much about this? Help me understand the mindset.
     
  2. Darktruth

    Darktruth Member

    I asked actually. :D

    Anyway…it’s completely lost on me as well for the same reasons Seb mentioned.
     
  3. sillylittlepet

    sillylittlepet Active Member

    As a sub, I'm not really into long term bondage either (maybe I should add it to my list of soft limits!!!)
    But the appeal for regular bondage for me is the helplessness and the struggle to escape my bonds. When my master ties me up, my first action is to attempt escape, even as he's putting the bonds on. Its a game that I find wonderful, the thrill of being unable to escape but trying your hardest
    And eventually when I give up (althought sometimes I actually get out...) I know that I'm completely at my master's mercy. Even if he were to leave, I would be stuck there all tied up and ready for him whenever he wanted me!

    Now, if he left for a long period of time (more than 5 or 10 minutes) I would get pretty bored.
     
  4. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Dark, oops--sorry about that.
     
  5. Darktruth

    Darktruth Member

    That long!!! I don’t think I’d even manage 2 minutes to be honest.
     
  6. Darktruth

    Darktruth Member

    Don't worry about it, it's an easy mistake to make. :D It’s an interesting question none-the-less though. I don’t know about anyone else but I find the Sub’s mindset fascinating.
     
  7. Martello

    Martello Member

    As a Dom, the appeal of long term bondage is lost on me as well. There are a great many things, fetishist, that I'm just don't get. Of course to each his/her/it's own - but I just can;t wrap my mind around some things. This is most def one of them. For me bondage is extremely sexual and I'm a very to the point kind of person. So, yeah, if someone had some insight on this; that would be fantastic.
     
  8. I would like to try this properly, with no interruptions, but am currently unble to because of a stupid health problem :mad:

    I am very restless at night, and sometimes, when my master sleeps over, this results in him not getting quite as much sleep as he would like :( So he suggested tying me up to sleep, and although nervous, I was curious, and agreed to give it a try.

    It felt really nice. Even though I had enough slack so that I could move a little, I didn't actually want to. So I felt better able to relax, enough to the point where I think I did actually drift off :) I'm not sure exactly how long I was restrained for though, only that it couldn't have been for long because I need to pee throughout the night :mad: If not for this, I could probably go quite happpily to sleep, and wake up, in bondage :)

    Also, one time, I was hogtied on the bed while my master cooked for us. This took at least half an hour, and he came in every 5 minutes or so to check on me, but I wasn't bored at all. I was quite fascinated, in a way, to be so helpless for what felt like quite a long time. It was a little uncomfortable, but for the most part was really relaxing; I really liked just lying there, knowing I would be helpless for an undetermined length of time :)
     
  9. This is part of why I love it. I am completely at her mercy. Nothing I can do about it. She comes and goes as she pleases while taking my freedom away. I feel very owned when tied. When tied for long periods it intensifies this feeling. It turns me on the longer I am tied.



    There are ways around having to pee throughout the night ;) not everyone is into that though.

    I also move a lot when I sleep, but not as much when tied. I feel more refreshed when I wake up if I slept while tied. Mistress doesn't mind tying me while I sleep except she thinks its annoying to untie me when its time. Haha I have slept 9hrs while tied once. Felt really good.

    Once I had my hands cuffed behind me on the couch. Just laying there (Mistress is nice, I got to watch tv too!) She said I was asleep in less than 2minutes. It is very relaxing.

    We are in a 24/7 relationship. She is always on her toes with keeping me in line, but when I'm tied for long periods I know it makes Mistress happy that she can relax while not worrying about me. I guess that can be considered me wanting to make her happy. She knows right where I am and where I will be until she comes to get me.

    Its also the anticipation of when she is coming back. We rent a duplex. Its not small, but from the bed I can hear her walking in the living room. I hear that and lift my head to listen and see if she is coming back. Then when she does come back I get so excited. Sometimes for nothing, but its so much fun!

    The feeling of waking up in bondage is pure awesome. First I think "what the..." Then I remember she tied me while I slept. My next thought is "where is she!" After that if I don't have to pee or my work alarm wakes me up I just lay there and wait. I know she doesn't want to hear if I'm awake or not. She wants her time to relax.

    We also practice safe long term bondage too. When tied to the bed we use ankle cuffs around my hands looped around the side of the headboard on my side of the bed. (She likes me not keeping her awake by cuddling her too.) I am still restricted, but can roll over, sit up a little to stretch my arms and reach my night stand. On my night stand is where I keep my phone. (I'm not allowed on it unless talking to her.) if it falls to the floor I can still reach it. Usually she leaves the door open, unless I'm going to sleep for the night. Then its closed so baby doesn't wake me up. I can also reach a bottle of water.

    We also have three 3foot chains that look like handcuff chains. Sometimes I get an extra 3ft of chain while sleeping! It doesn't feel as good since its less restricting, but the extra chain means I have been a good slave so it makes me happy too!

    Any other long term bondage tips are welcomed in this thread too.
     
  10. Sate_Sprie

    Sate_Sprie Member

    I always wanted to try this. I'm not really sure why it intrigues me. It just does. I don't think Master is really into it though.
     
  11. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Handcuff, thanks for the detailed explanation. It helps me picture how one could do long-term bondage comfortably and safely, and it gives me some real insight into what LTB does for subs.
     
  12. Seb: I'm not good at putting feelings into words. Took me quite awhile to think about it and type it out. Gave me a lot to think about as well. I enjoyed it. Now I got some more things to discuss with Mistress too!
     
  13. Ceilidh

    Ceilidh Member

    hum. I haven't ever tried this but when I first started reading this thread about long term bondage I began thinking about what it would be like to put myself into this kind of situation -- what kind of frame of mind would i have?

    the only thing that came to mind was kidnapping...although what kind of scene I'm thinking up sounds kinda fun...so how about I tell a short made up story?


    It is nearly midnight and I just got off work from waitressing at CJ's Bar and Grill. As I got to my car and started it up I rembered I needed to get gas; I didn't have enough time to before work.
    Quickly I drove to the nearest open gas station, pulled up to the gas pump and walked inside to pre-pay. Of course, it is night and you have to walk inside to pre-pay, whatever happened to the old days when you got your gas then went inside to pay? Or when gas was eighty-five cents a gallon?
    As I walked back out to my car exhausted from work and with my eyes watching where I was walking. I got my gas and drove home.
    Pulling up into my driveway I noticed how dark the front of my house looked. I forgot to leave the poarch light on. Of course I got called in earlier to work so in my rush I forgot to turn on the stupid light.
    Feeling like my night can't get much worse and my body is aching for a quick shower and some sleep I slip out of my car and head to my front door while once again watching where I am walking so I don't trip over anything. My mind however has already ran ahead of me and is curling up in my bed sleeping before I even have the front door unlocked and am safely inside.
    But of course my night just keeps getting better and better. If pulling a double-shift and being man-handled all day and night by strange men wasn't enough now I'm being attacked as I enter my own home!
    As soon as I unlocked the door I was pushed inside the door so quickly I didn't even know what happened until I hit the floor and was about to get up. He was on top of me in seconds and was tying my hands together before I had a chance to fight back. Then gagging me so I couldn't scream and blindfolding me so I couldn't see. He lifted me up like 135 pounds was nothing to him and carried me into what I figured was my bedroom.
    He laid me down on the bed and immedately tied my hands above my head to the headboard. Then he tied each of my legs to a corner of the bed. But of course by now I've gotten in a few good kicks trying to fight back and get away. But in the end he was stronger than me and won.
    As I laid there tied up, blindfolded and gagged. I can only assume he was standing there stairing at me. Then I felt it. A hand at my left foot, slowly feeling it's way up my leg to my shorts that just barely covered my ass. His touch felt different, I was trying to figure out it was; it didn't feel like skin, perhaps a leather glove? While I was deciding his hand went up to where my skin and shorts met and stopped, then went even slower down my right leg to my ankle.
    After his hand left my right ankle I felt something cold on my left ankle going up my leg as his fingers just did. Just as he reached my calf did it click what the cold object was -- a knife. As he reached the leg of my shorts he lifted the leg slightly and proceeded to cut them off of me. He did the same thing with my right leg too, then he began the process all over again with each garmet I wore -- tshirt, undies, and bra; in that order.
    After he finished his last cut of fabric that covered my body I heard the click of the knife being put away and the rustling of his pants as he walked out of the room.
    I don't know how long I laid there but I eventually fell asleep because when I awoke I could hear the morning songbirds chipring and I could feel the warm sun on my naked body. As I began to strech my arms and legs and get ready to get out of bed I realised I couldn't move that I was tied down and everything from last night came back to my memory...


    Sorry if I kinda rushed the end. I had planed on much more...but it is currently 1:30 am, and I'm tired, so the story suffers. Thought I'd stop here and think about finishing it....lol I know it wasn't much. I know I didn't even get to the "good stuff," but I hope ya'll enjoyed it. I enjoyed writing it. First time I ever wrote anything like this, so don't be too brutal with me...
     
  14. sillylittlepet

    sillylittlepet Active Member

    Make it a short story about long term bondage XD
     
  15. Next try a long story about short bondage XD

    Something else I like is having Mistress act mad at me. If its for play then I like it, but it sucks when I let her down. She doesn't leave me tied when she is out of the house. Usually I am watching the little one. Waking up if she wakes up when Mistress is gone. I will txt her to act mad at me and tie me to the bed when she gets home. Its so hot!
     
    Last edited: Jun 17, 2010

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