I am asking this community because I am tired of the answers from other communities which claim I was raped because physical force was used. Please do me the respect of answering in an honest manner. My then partner called me his concubine, used the Bible as evidence that I should submit to him, forced me to give him blow jobs, have painful anal sex, bit my clit, tied me up, punished me when I was bad by spanking me, exposed me in public and demanded oral sex in public, wouldn't let me wear clothes, pulled my hair to make me do what he wanted, etc. But I never told him no, I think he interpreted screams of pain as screams of pleasure, he was my husband, and I didn't leave for all that time. I didn't enjoy it but I did enjoy that he was sharing his fantasies with me. I am trying to decide if this was a submissive/ dominant relationship because I am not comfortable calling it rape when I did what he wanted without saying no. I need to move forward from my flashbacks. I know you all will have a different perspective than everyone else. Please respond with your opinion- any opinion will help me think.