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Hello,
This is my first post here so I will try to introduce myself and the reason to why I'm here.
I have been into BDSM for about 6 years and never met anyone like my girlfriend.
We met 2 months ago and the sex is better than anything I've experienced.
We do not live 24/7, and our BDSM-relationship stays for the most part in the bedroom.
She has a necklace I have given here and whenever I want her as my slave, i simply ask her to put it on.
Our play has been fantastic and she have had no problems whatsoever when it comes to "turning"...
She has told me that she never has felt as dominated/far down as when I dominate her and that she never experienced the complete feeling of belonging to anyone as she does with me...somehing that both me and her are extremely happy about.
However...the last few weeks I've noticed some problems.
Sometimes, in certain situations, she suddenly "rises" up and loses touch with her sub. This could take it's expression in that she suddenly stops responding to my questions, becomes angry, flinches, acts to "proud" to serve me, wants to hit me, wrestle me, bite me etc. Has anyone had any experience with this sort of behavior?
She tells me that she does not want to rise, it just happens in her body that suddenly she loses touch with her inner slave during a session.
For exampe, this happens more often now during a spanking/caning. When she is being punished for something, and the pain starts to really hurt...she starts to become angry instead of accepting her punishment as before. When she enters this mode, she acts similar to an angry kitten. She stops to answer me, she hits the bed/wall, she curses, she moves out of positions or she attacks me.
She does not want to feel this way, but says that it just happens. She enjoys pain, but it also makes her angry and sometimes she rises instead of sinking.
I have asked her afterwards if there's something she's thinking about that's bothering her, if she's had a tough day, if she's sad/angry about anything else but she says that this is not the case.
What would you focus on with a slave like this? If pain has this effect on her, (something that we will have to solve) would you try to solve this by giving up painplay for some time and concetrate on other punishments, other forms of DS?
Another way of seeing it is that all of this anger that she feels, is there because of a reason and that reason is not the spanking or the pain. That it is something that she needs to get out of her system, a plateau if you will, wich will if crossed go over to something else. When her body learns that she cannot escape her punishments by being angry, wrestling me or whatever my experience tells me that the body also eventually will understand this. The anger will then probably go over into tears, feelings of humiliation, sadness etc.
What we absolutely cannot have is that she whenever confronted with pain (as I must clarify, she enjoys ) can escape this by acting like a spoiled brat who screams until she gets things her way...
What are your're thoughts about this? Sorry for my english, and please ask any questions that you want... I appreciate all help regarding this.
Cheers,
IceEyes
This is my first post here so I will try to introduce myself and the reason to why I'm here.
I have been into BDSM for about 6 years and never met anyone like my girlfriend.
We met 2 months ago and the sex is better than anything I've experienced.
We do not live 24/7, and our BDSM-relationship stays for the most part in the bedroom.
She has a necklace I have given here and whenever I want her as my slave, i simply ask her to put it on.
Our play has been fantastic and she have had no problems whatsoever when it comes to "turning"...
She has told me that she never has felt as dominated/far down as when I dominate her and that she never experienced the complete feeling of belonging to anyone as she does with me...somehing that both me and her are extremely happy about.
However...the last few weeks I've noticed some problems.
Sometimes, in certain situations, she suddenly "rises" up and loses touch with her sub. This could take it's expression in that she suddenly stops responding to my questions, becomes angry, flinches, acts to "proud" to serve me, wants to hit me, wrestle me, bite me etc. Has anyone had any experience with this sort of behavior?
She tells me that she does not want to rise, it just happens in her body that suddenly she loses touch with her inner slave during a session.
For exampe, this happens more often now during a spanking/caning. When she is being punished for something, and the pain starts to really hurt...she starts to become angry instead of accepting her punishment as before. When she enters this mode, she acts similar to an angry kitten. She stops to answer me, she hits the bed/wall, she curses, she moves out of positions or she attacks me.
She does not want to feel this way, but says that it just happens. She enjoys pain, but it also makes her angry and sometimes she rises instead of sinking.
I have asked her afterwards if there's something she's thinking about that's bothering her, if she's had a tough day, if she's sad/angry about anything else but she says that this is not the case.
What would you focus on with a slave like this? If pain has this effect on her, (something that we will have to solve) would you try to solve this by giving up painplay for some time and concetrate on other punishments, other forms of DS?
Another way of seeing it is that all of this anger that she feels, is there because of a reason and that reason is not the spanking or the pain. That it is something that she needs to get out of her system, a plateau if you will, wich will if crossed go over to something else. When her body learns that she cannot escape her punishments by being angry, wrestling me or whatever my experience tells me that the body also eventually will understand this. The anger will then probably go over into tears, feelings of humiliation, sadness etc.
What we absolutely cannot have is that she whenever confronted with pain (as I must clarify, she enjoys ) can escape this by acting like a spoiled brat who screams until she gets things her way...
What are your're thoughts about this? Sorry for my english, and please ask any questions that you want... I appreciate all help regarding this.
Cheers,
IceEyes
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