Strap on advice needed

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by AmandaC, Sep 12, 2009.

  1. AmandaC

    AmandaC New Member

    I've got a strap on, but what can I do while fucking my bf in the ass? He's submissive and enjoys it, but he doesn't orgasm from it. How can I get him off while doing him? Just a reach around? Surely there must be something kinkier than that.
    Can anyone offer some suggestions?

    I promise to follow the advice of the kinkiest/funnest sounding ideas. :p
     
  2. I've heard that some guys can get off from just the anal stimulation due to the prostate, I knew a guy once that accidentally came when his girlfriend fucked him harder than he wanted her to...

    Try forcing him to stroke himself in sync with your stroking and if he misses a beat, thrust really hard as punishment, you both may be surprised how quickly the line between pleasure and pain blurs...just a thought :) happy thrusting!
     
  3. kittengrey

    kittengrey Member

    Truthfully, I would use bondage or verbal stimulation. Being a sub, simple things like being bound to the point that I can't move, or being called a good slave amoung other things usually turn me on more. Also eliminating a sense, like a blindfold or earplugs can heighten sexual tension. Another choice you have is teasing him. Play with him a bit before hand. Get him already close to climax. Also keep your thrusts at a random pace. Don't keep the same rythym. A cock ring would probably help too.
     
  4. GreyMac

    GreyMac Member

    I think bluelagoon and kittengrey both have good advice. Additionally, you can try a "fleshlight" which looks something like a canned vulva. There' re not cheap. You can also make one out of a washcloth, a latex glove and a large tumbler. Lay the glove out smooth on the washcloth which should be folded once. Roll the glove up in the washcloth with the wrist band sticking out one end. Put the rolled up washcloth in the large tumbler and stretch the wristband back over the rim of the tumbler. Use lots of lube and this contraption actually makes an amazingly effective masturbator. Make him do all the work and whenever he withdraws his cock from the device (it's known as a "Fifi") he's thrusting himself back onto your cock. Dictate the pace and don't let him get off until you decide it's time.
     
  5. kittengrey

    kittengrey Member

    A part of me is wondering where Gmac discovered how to make his own version of what I usually refer to as "pussy in a can" but another part of me wants to stay far away from that subject :x
     
  6. GreyMac

    GreyMac Member

    Oh, I see how it is...
    I suggest ways to make leg spreaders and spanking benches for $1.29, or use everyday household goods in very kinky and unusual ways and I'm creative - but a homemade masturbation device and I'm suddenly suspect, am I? :D

    I had a good friend a number of years ago who spent 7 months in minimum security prison for receiving stolen property. He told me about 'Fifi' when he got home.

    Any other details are between me and Fifi....
    ;>)
     
  7. subspace

    subspace Member

    The ‘fifi’! Ha, I didn’t know anyone else actually called it that! Well in addition to inmates another group that has made making ‘fifi’s out of whatever is handy into an art form is our fine military. My Top was overseas in the USMC forever and he once told me years ago that the best fifi ever made while on ship was made out of a hollowed out "Tickle me Elmo†that was sent as a gag gift. Gives new meaning to ‘stuffed animal’. :p
    (sorry I just couldn’t resist that last part)
     
  8. master jey

    master jey Moderator

    +1 to flashlight
     
  9. GreyMac

    GreyMac Member

    Okay for that you should 'pun'ished, but I'd have to think a long time to come up with anything serious enough to fit such a heinous offense...
    ;)
     
  10. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    try sitting in a chair, and having him ride you facing away, while both of you watch in a full length mirror, you looking over his shoulder, him in a skirt and spaghetti strap top... give him a reach around and time it to the rhythm of him riding you. make it sensual, play with his breasts and nipples. do everything a guy would do if the positions were reversed... even if he doesn't cum from the scene, its still hot...
     
  11. GreyMac

    GreyMac Member

    Sparrow suggests good stuff! Always got the nice psycological topspin. You don't mention bondage but a frog tie (see the lovely Lorelei here) while he's on his back gives you the easiest possible access to his cock to stroke as you see appropriate. It also gives the tool you're thrusting the best angle for massaging his prostate. If he's ever going to cum without manual stimulation of his cock, the prostate is key.

    [​IMG]
     
    Last edited: Sep 14, 2009
  12. EZRA

    EZRA Member

    angle it all about the angle and as a girl you should know that.:)
    if you start hitting the prostrate if hes gonna cum from this he will especialy if you fuck him like you like to be fucked.
    I cant maintain an erection when being fucked with out lots of stimulation, but I still really get off from it I tend to yell stuff" like fuck me like a slut ". I love it but so far I haven't cum this way, I don't mind really it fulfills some other needs in me but we've just started and I can feel something building.
    just as a thought you might explain to him what you have to do mentaly to cum , it might help him get there
     
    Last edited: Sep 14, 2009
  13. master jey

    master jey Moderator

    yeah prostate is our weak place :D
     
  14. Malelesbian

    Malelesbian New Member

    Another vote for the fleshlight or homemade fifi devices from me. The prostate stimulation is very intense like this, but it's often not enough to make a guy truly have a full-on orgasm. If you put one of these things in a pillow under him and have him pegging it while you're humping him, that should definitely get the job done. Have fun! :)
     

Share This Page