Hello all my name is riff, A while ago I got married to a wonderful woman, and we have since had a baby. Sex has always been great but of course it goes through ups and down of frequency. We've played around a bit with toys and handcuffs but recently I realized just how much she likes it. I've always enjoyed it but have always been restrained because I though she was probably doing it because I liked it. She also has always wanted to give me hickeys, and loved it when I gave them to her. There were times where she has wrestled me pretty hard to give me one and slowly I would increase the level of defense I used from holding her back to pushing more to restraining her. I'm now starting to think she tries so hard to get to being restrained. I've started reading through stories and forums more and this seems to be the most active form I can find. I have been reading a lot to get more ideas on how to procede. We are not at the beginning stages but I don't know how far she wants to go. She is VERY reluctant to talk about what she likes in bed unless I get her really turned on and even then its basic yes and no answers. I did tell her I was going to start pushing things farther and to let me know if we go too far so I plan to slowly push ahead and not stop till she says something. Currently we have a CA king size bed with a full frame that has mirrors about 5 ft above the bed which she picked out. I've hidden eyelets around the bed and we have a few long straps I use to tie her up, a few pairs of wrist/ankle cuff restraints, and a small assortment of toys. I have been reading through a lot of your posts about restraint on a budget and toys for beginners and am starting a list of things to pick up. We have a Vegas vacation planned for the end of the month and I hope to do a lot by then and come up with some real plans for the week end. I love that the farther out of the mainstream we get the more tolerant we are of each other. I'd love to hear any advice from anyone about things to do or toys to buy or anything. This has turned into quite a post but it's nice to put it all out there. I look forward to hearing from every one in all posts.