Something I've noticed

Discussion in 'Section open for any subject to discuss' started by Amuk, Jun 4, 2009.

  1. Amuk

    Amuk Member

    I don't know about anyone else, but I feel this community is great.
    However, the fact that most of the "active users" don't even post concerns me. I think it may be that they're here just for the porn.

    I mean, sure, porn is great. But are these people that are posting or looking at this really helping this community grow?

    Just thought I'd give my two cents on this. Thought it might be worthy of a discussion. Maybe. If not, let this thread die.
  2. subspace

    subspace Member

    I have often had similar thoughts Amuk. I guess it is just comes down to two different motivations for being on the forum. It seems that the majority just want free porn but their is a growing group that is really here for the conversation and community. Luckily I think the forum supports both well.
  3. Stargazer

    Stargazer Member

    i myself posted a message some time ago noting the exact same thing. Admittedly, since I made my original observations, this small corner of the community has perked up somewhat and is doing far better.

    I signed up at a much larger and highly active site in the hopes I would be able to join discussion threads and exchange information. However, all I found there was a lot of nitpicking, disrespectful, cynical and often hypocritical miseries who had nothing better to do than drag other people down to their level or drive out anyone new to the forum so they could carry on with their cliquey banter.

    I don;t post there anymore because I can do without the hassle. I don;t post much here, not because of the same problems I have with the 'other' place, thank goodness... But more because of the fact that there is still so few discussion threads here of which i can make any kind of contribution to.

    This site, while showing massive potential, has yet to hit the mark of anything much more than a link-exchange for pictures and videos.

    I also acknowledge that this is a catch-22. if people like me don;t post more then how is this place to grow into a discussion forum, yet I don't want to get too involved until it turns into that place... So, I'll carry on in the mean-time as i have done. I'll post here and there where I think I can contribute and maybe, hopefully, in the near future, things will get better.
  4. Nyx

    Nyx Member

    I'm here for the community and the discussion. :) I like knowing how other people live the lifestyle and I enjoy getting ideas.
  5. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    to date, while i have scanned the porn posts, I've never clicked a link, except the ones in the personal photos section, and then more out of the curiosity to see what other people who post here are doing/into.

    I'd say that definately qualifies me here for the conversation, and not the porn, but then again, if a person is here for the porn, How will they ever find this thread to post in??? LOL
  6. pyroaquatic

    pyroaquatic Member

    I am definitely here for the conversation. I don't allow myself to masturbate so what is the point in looking at porn. I would rather have the real experience!
  7. Amuk

    Amuk Member

    Yes, anyone who does post in here is here for the conversation and communication aspect of the forums.

    I just feel that it's a little insulting that so many people are using this forum basically as free backup storage for their porn collection. Not all of it is BDSM related even! Heck, if you're going to post porn in a BDSM forum, then why bother with the vanilla stuff? Sure, I watch some of it, too, but seriously?

    Maybe it's just me, but I think the community would grow faster without the distraction of all that porn.
  8. Phantasm

    Phantasm Member

    This is pretty much what I do, also.

    I just don't post too much because I like my posts to be relevant and on-topic, and i don't feel the need to post on a thread

    - that doesn't interest me
    - where what I would have said has already been said
    - with potential for argument

    and other such things.

    But I still lurk and read. :)
  9. EZRA

    EZRA Member

    I'm here for the discussion, to learn and get feed back.
    Like others I've checked out a few personal picts. but I've already lost interst in any of that.
    unless they were posted by an active member.

    I have noticed alot of Bot's thought.
    you know ,post that supposedly come from real people.
    say some thing nonsensical on or off topic
    then proceed to tell you to go to some website or contact them in some way
    or whose thread starter is about some "great new website or place to go to"
    always a link for a tag
    I suppose it's only the natural evolution of advertising, for them to find a way around the forums bot defenses.
    Try and get one to respond directly to a post some time and see what happens.
  10. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    Please report the non bdsm posts to in the future, i'll go and check it out now, as it specifically says "BDSM Videos from the net"
  11. subspace

    subspace Member

    Well my posts might not always be fabulous, but I am a chatterbox and also enjoy all the regulars that post on frequent basis even when slightly off topic.
    As far as the porn goes, I love the pics of actual members but the porn movies frankly scare me! I mean I love BDSM but holy cow some of these clips are nightmare inducing and more like extreme torture, they would turn me totally off BDSM if I was new. I just hate to see people in sexual situations that are clearly in massive pain and don’t seem to be enjoying it. If I knew they were enjoying it and were willing participants then it would be different. The emotional/mental aspect of BDSM that I love so much just doesn’t lend itself to video as well.
  12. Miamhail

    Miamhail New Member

    I log in almost daily to read the conversational treads. But unfortunately, there are not that many. (I have not looked at the porn.). I have not posted because as someone said earlier, it's already been said and I'm leery of getting snarky replies. I do like the website and every now and then there is some good information that pops up. I just wish there was more.
  13. subspace

    subspace Member

    Welcome to posting Miamhail! If you are looking for more information ask and start a thread! That's what will make the forum grow! Welcome, we're not that snarky are we?
  14. Emma

    Emma Member

    I only joined like a few weeks ago or something and I havent posted at all really but i look around nearly every day! I just never feel like i have something relevant to say and because im kind of new to this stuff i dont wanna look stupid, i guess im kinda shy! I tend to write out replies but then im like nah no point in posting that, ha! I have looked at the porn a bit but i think like Sparrow said it would be more the personal stuff and all, i dont like porn, too fake! It does seem to be kind of a close forum like there are a lot of regular posters so there is a tendancy to feel like your trying to break into cliques if you get me so maybe thats why a lot of people dont post.
  15. subspace

    subspace Member

    Welcome Emma-join our clique! Don't worry about saying something stupid, we are all here to learn and share. If we knew it all we wouldn't need the forum!
    Last edited: Jun 6, 2009

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