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Master'slilpet · Nov 9, 2012

Hello~

me and Master are still new to the BDSM world, and i have a small question..

in some pictures n videos n things, Doms comment on how sub should "wipe that smile off their face". Can someone explain to me why? i mean it seems like a good chunk of the community partakes in it...

i don't see whats so wrong with it..
is it just preference or?

Smallest · Nov 9, 2012

It's not usually a preference against smiling. First off, it's an expression, usually said to be intimidating, so that in itself is a reason to say it. For another, the dom may want to feel that his/her sub is scared/nonconsenting/etc for the scene to flow as desired. It could also be that it's seen as a look of disrespect- smiling isn't very serious, and dom/mes are 'superiors,' like in the workplace, military, etc.

Foreverbunny91 · Nov 9, 2012

I don't care what my subby does just so long as he does what i say- he can even laugh at me if he wants... granted, he won't be laughing for long.

Hippie-Sadist · Nov 9, 2012

Agree with Bunny. I allow my pet to smile if she wishes. we will also have times when our play will kinda pause because we are both giggling. BDSM is all about what you WANT it to be. Not what the BDSM social norm is.

Smallest · Nov 9, 2012

On the point the others are making, my owner usually doesn't care if I smile either, and I haven't seen the 'dislike' as a trend.

Master'slilpet · Nov 10, 2012

okay, i understand more, i just noticed it alot and i wanted to see what peoples opinions of it were..

Her-sir · Nov 11, 2012

Hippie-Sadist said:
BDSM is all about what you WANT it to be.

Exactly

Hippie-Sadist said:
Not what the BDSM social norm is.

Anyone else find the humor in this part? BDSM and social norm in the same sentence.

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