hey i'm new to these forums, and i've got a question. i'm in an otherwise fairly vanilla relationship, but my girl and i are starting to get into kinkier sex. we've done a bit of bondage and forced orgasm, but i don't know how far i should go with it. it's really hard to get her to open up about what she wants/is comfortable with. i know she's kinkier than she lets on because when she has a bit to drink she comes out with really filthy suggestions. i'm finding it a little hard to get into the dom role and i don't want to try stuff with her unless she's asked for it, even if i'm sure she'll like it... i think maybe we're still a bit self conscious...? anyone have any experience of these things, or any general advice for a newbie dom (and her sub)?