I was thinking about the nature of being a sub and how in order to get my needs fulfilled I rely solely on the actions of my Dom. A good Dom has be to resourceful and creative to keep a sub on their toes and maintain dominance. They have to think about and respect limits and boundaries, think about physical and mental well being in a way I don't think comes into play in a vanilla relationship. I couldn't help but think that my role could be seen as the easier of the two. Would I be seen as sexually selfish? In that I am taking the passive role, not required to think but merely to respond. That I can be free to let go, to lose myself to my submission and pleasure but that my partner has to maintain control to ensure that he doesn't go too far and hurt me? That as the Dom, he is the one always having to hold back?