Seeking bedroom help :/

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by LSD Lady, Apr 9, 2009.

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  1. LSD Lady

    LSD Lady New Member

    I suppose I have a bit of explaining to do first.

    I am an 18 year old girl. My boyfriend is 24. After some convincing in bed, I finally got him to agree with trying BDSM; specially, my domination of him. He has become more enthusiastic as time has gone on, and we are planning to make it something special.

    I was originally a sub. I started my sexual experience being very abused, and used submissiveness to protect myself and make sex easier, when deep inside, I knew that I was meant to dominate, and dominate full forced.

    Every sexual relationships I have ever had, it bubbled inside me, and only now have I felt confident enough to be the person I know I am. It has come to the point where when I sleep with him, I can't even "fully enjoy" the experience unless I imagine him fully submitting to me. I think about it far too often.

    My boyfriend was actually the opposite. He has never experienced the feeling of being submissive sexually. Previous to me, he believed firmly that it was a man's place to take control in the bedroom. He has slept with countless women and has more experience under his belt then me.

    Regardless, he says that I make him want to submit when we are together, and would like to attempt (if even once) to be my slave [[in bedroom play only]].

    I am now at a stand still, because im not sure what to do. So community, I come to you.

    - What is the best way to break a strong willed, but willing potential slave.

    - What are some good lines/things to call my man? What are some classic ways to demand? He tells me that he would love to be humiliated and demeaned.

    - I am not very creative. I know I want to play with some sharp objects, tie him up, and bind him, but what are some other good bedroom activities for a female to do to a male.

    - how can I best prepare myself for my first experience as a master. Ultimately, I want to make this a lasting relationship, but also a relationship that does not extend outside the bedroom.

    any additional information would be very helpful. Thank you!
     
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  2. ReallyGreen

    ReallyGreen Member

    - What is the best way to break a strong willed, but willing potential slave?
    You train people like you train dogs and horses. Carrot and stick. Your BDSM sticks are pain, bondage and humiliation. Your carrot is sexual pleasure.

    - What are some good lines/things to call my man?
    Slave, sub, bitch, dog-boy, faggot, boy-toy, shithead, asshole, do you really need us to tell you a humiliating name?

    What are some classic ways to demand? He tells me that he would love to be humiliated and demeaned.
    Pegging, fisting, urethral sounding, enemas, forced-bi, chastity devices, toilet play, crossdressing, animal roleplaying.

    - I am not very creative. I know I want to play with some sharp objects, tie him up, and bind him, but what are some other good bedroom activities for a female to do to a male.
    CBT and ballbusting are specific to men. Floggers are always fun to play with, a good caning, clothespins ("zippers" are a series of clothespins tied together with string), hot wax, digging his skin with your nails (basically knifeplay without a knife).

    - how can I best prepare myself for my first experience as a master.
    Watch S&M porn, do what they do. OSK productions has a series of How-To DVDs that deal with Rope Bondage, Suspension, CBT, Puppy play and Sounding. Dem-Lab S/M Tech (available at Amazon) has DVDs on spanking, flogging, CBT, mummification, and rope bondage.

    Ultimately, I want to make this a lasting relationship, but also a relationship that does not extend outside the bedroom.
    Typically the two of you would agree on a set time to "play" (lets say sunday). And you would both wear something to signify you're 'in character', traditionally a collar for the sub maybe a studded braclet or something for the dom. If you are both wearing your thing, you know you're still playing, if you take them off (hurts too much, have to sleep, already orgasmed, want to watch TV) then you know you're done.
     
    Last edited: Apr 9, 2009
  3. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    I don't think it can be said any better then ReallyGreen has put it.

    As a side note, I like to use cameras, and then make them watch their enjoyment of being humiliated, which in turn adds to the humiliation and sexual arousal all over again.
     
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