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I think it's interesting that a lack of trust is mentioned as being a reason for NOT having a safe word. In fact, I see my safe word as evidence of my top's trust in me. He knows I won't use it unless I have an absolutely serious reason. If I use the safe word I have to explain why I used it, both to validate the reason I used it and so my top can understand what happened and adjust if necessary.
I find the safe word important when we test my limits. Recently he said that he was going to spank me with the new paddle until I used the safe word, just to see how much I thought I could take.
Also, because I had some near abusive/negative experiences when I was younger, I find the idea of a safe word a psychological comfort. i.e. I couldn't say 'no' last time, but if I need to say 'no' now, I can do it and be respected.
As mentioned, it also makes my top feel more comfortable. He doesn't worry about pushing me too far, because too far is up for discussion.
Then again, I'm not a 24/7 sub, so my limits are more negotiable than some. Nevertheless I feel like a safe word is important for that one time when something goes wrong.
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