vongikking
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I just started a thread on fetlife about the Brazilian BDSM scene mainly the scene from the city I'm from (Rio de Janeiro), raising the question: "Are we (Brasilians) ready for a BDSM scene?"
By scene I mean group of people sharing information and exchanging experiences. I won't translate the whole text because its kind of big and wouldnt be interesting, the thing is, I tell some of the few experiences I had trough the years with the BDSM scene, the firs of all, when I was at mIRC channers and there were lots and serious rules about how to behave and how to not hit on other people subs, etc, not just a guideline of how a nice person behaves, but the tone expressed how serious problem this was at the channel.
I don't go to BDSM parties here, there are just not my thing, expensive, with much older people (I'm 25, the avarage is 40), doing things I'm not into (trampling, exposition etc), So I went just a few times to know what it was about then didn't return.
The thing is, and the motive I started my thread at fetlife was that a few months ago, I started dating a young sub, and she was just discovering herself at the bdsm world, so she started to talk to people from the so called scene, and what was my surprise to hear from her, since we decided I would be her owner/Master and she started to deny the pleas of other Doms to became their slaves, that thes so called "scene people" tryied to convince her that she shouldnt be with me, because I wasn't a serious person, I wasnt a real Dom, was just playing Dom. and what drove them to this conclusion was the simple fact I didn't went to BDSM partyies or other "scene" BDSM encounters.
Apar from that, the same people tryied to take advantage of her fragilities to drive her away from me.
So, my point is, I opened a thread rasing the issue about is this a so comon thing at Brasilian scene that shows we are not ready for a respectful scene or did I just had a real bad luck, of course "Bad/Evil" (just for the lack of a better term since my english vocabulary is not that extensive) persons will allways be present on any scene, but is it so often in Brasil?
Actualy I brought the issue here to ask, does around the world scenes also have this issues? The constant need to police others or the will exagerate?
I Was actualy very happy when I registred here to see a level of respect with the members, not just people arguing something and hitting on each other tiresly.
Sorry for the english mistakes.
By scene I mean group of people sharing information and exchanging experiences. I won't translate the whole text because its kind of big and wouldnt be interesting, the thing is, I tell some of the few experiences I had trough the years with the BDSM scene, the firs of all, when I was at mIRC channers and there were lots and serious rules about how to behave and how to not hit on other people subs, etc, not just a guideline of how a nice person behaves, but the tone expressed how serious problem this was at the channel.
I don't go to BDSM parties here, there are just not my thing, expensive, with much older people (I'm 25, the avarage is 40), doing things I'm not into (trampling, exposition etc), So I went just a few times to know what it was about then didn't return.
The thing is, and the motive I started my thread at fetlife was that a few months ago, I started dating a young sub, and she was just discovering herself at the bdsm world, so she started to talk to people from the so called scene, and what was my surprise to hear from her, since we decided I would be her owner/Master and she started to deny the pleas of other Doms to became their slaves, that thes so called "scene people" tryied to convince her that she shouldnt be with me, because I wasn't a serious person, I wasnt a real Dom, was just playing Dom. and what drove them to this conclusion was the simple fact I didn't went to BDSM partyies or other "scene" BDSM encounters.
Apar from that, the same people tryied to take advantage of her fragilities to drive her away from me.
So, my point is, I opened a thread rasing the issue about is this a so comon thing at Brasilian scene that shows we are not ready for a respectful scene or did I just had a real bad luck, of course "Bad/Evil" (just for the lack of a better term since my english vocabulary is not that extensive) persons will allways be present on any scene, but is it so often in Brasil?
Actualy I brought the issue here to ask, does around the world scenes also have this issues? The constant need to police others or the will exagerate?
I Was actualy very happy when I registred here to see a level of respect with the members, not just people arguing something and hitting on each other tiresly.
Sorry for the english mistakes.
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