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worth more conversation!
This is such an interesting and important question, that it makes one wish there was a lot more conversation on and around the subject. If someone knows of a good public discussion on this, I'd be thankful for a link.
To draw the spatial line between bedroom and the rest of the universe,
or to draw the mental line between sexual and non-sexual behaviour can sometimes be a lot more complicated task than it first sounds like. We can imagine someone who is sexually turned on by seemingly non-sexual injustice (livingroom becoming the bedroom) just as well as we can imagine someone losing control on all levels of one's life just because he/she feels the need to be sexually dominated (bedroom becoming the livingroom).
In any human relationship with a sexual dimension involved there is the element of power that can be misused. Generally I would make a guess that people who are aware of (at least) their curiousity to "bdsm" are already somewhat more in terms with their nature and the necessity to set some borders for it; not to tame but to separate the cruel sexual (primordial?) beasts from the thinking and fair (civilized?) parts of our personalities.
And for us who value equality as high as we do, it's necessary to find some methods of breaking these taboos and discussing them - without spoiling the excitement they hold within.
As far as i understand it, you have no problem talking about this aloud with your master either. Being able to stand for yourself verbally when you feel the need to draw the line is very good already. It would be tempting to call a Dom who'd take the sub's opinion as something less worthy than his/her own an idiot, and I'm sure we're not dealing with idiots here, but with individuals who have a different ideas on how much of their lives should they let the flames of their sexuality engulf.
As a Dom I am personally attracted to strong willed subs in this sense; the type with whom I can be certain they won't let me go too far. It's a delicate balance of trust, and in this sense it's very important you let him know when you feel you're taking a step outside the "bedroom". Judging by the very short post here you sound like a strong person too...
It's been long since you posted this. I'm very curious to follow the story further. How has it developed? Have you managed to keep your relationship equal outside the bedroom, and how?
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), and I can somewhat see that happening already. How can one maintain a relationship of equality while still practicing bondage in the bedroom?
