I lurk on this forum a lot, but hardly ever have anything to input. That said, I have a situation that I'm hoping some of you may have some input on. I did a search on this but didn't find anything. I've recently moved into a house with my girlfriend. We're into bdsm off and on, and we're wanting more of the "on" and less of the "off," but we're very busy people and don't always have the time to spend on our d/s relationship that we would like. So here's the problem. Her father has fallen on hard times, and is now living with us. I'm happy with this from every angle except for our d/s and sex life. She is very averse to him hearing or in any way sensing our excapades, which I do understand, and agree with. No father wants to hear these things, and I respect that. But he's here all the time. I feel like we've skipped ahead several years in our life to when we have kids and are trying to not scar them for life, but instead of a 5 year old we have a 65 year old. So this leaves me with a dilemma: I need to maintain my relationship with my sub, but I need to be discreet. Does anybody have suggestions for me? She is the type of sub who, without consistency, becomes unruly. We've gotten to a place where she is not as obedient as I would like, and this bothers me. So do you guys have ideas as to how I can get us back to a better place, but, you know, quietly? I suppose I could think of things to do to rectify the situation, but I'm just kind of feeling defeated lately and needed to vent. I was thinking we would have an hour alone today, but it ended up being cut down to 20 minutes unexpectedly. Add 2+2 on that one. Any ideas/similar experiences?