pushing her limits???

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by herdomSir, Sep 17, 2011.

  1. herdomSir

    herdomSir New Member

    My wife/sub and I have a friend who we just out of the closet with.
    Here is my delema, he is very into her and she is very into the idea of someone other then me watching her. Would it be wrong of me to have her put on a show for him? She had said (before we came out to him) she would rather keep their interactions vanilla, but I KNOW they would both enjoy it.
    BTW he is bdsm curious but not active
    And how, if I decide to go through with it, do I keep it from setting up false expectations for him? Neither her or I would ever want him to fuck her.
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  2. Knots

    Knots Member

    You talk to her and see how she fees about it and then talk to him and see how he feels about it. Then keep on talking and see if it's a good idea to perservere and if everyone involved would consent, as it'd be entirely unfair to "force" this on either of the two parties.

    If you do all consent to this, then you'd have to explain to him very clealy that you would not be okay with him having sex with your wife, making sure he understands this and agrees to this limit before you continue.
  3. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Yup, Knots is right. Communication is the solution to about 75% of all problems with BDSM. So make it your solution of first resort.
  4. sirslittleslut

    sirslittleslut New Member

    Thank for the replies. I think we decided it would be better for everyone if the idea just stays an idea.

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