I know this has been asked before, i'm sure but i'm asking again. Any tips, resouces or examples to assist me? We're talking to a girl whom we met through fetlife. She's interested and understands the basics of polyamoury. We're good there. She, however is new to BDSM. She wants to play with me. I'm only versed in being a sub and i'm not sure thats for me, so if we play I would be her Dom which is something i'd love to try. I'm not a newbie to BDSM but since I am to domming it feels like i'm starting over again. Although hubby can help me i'd rather establish my own dom style through my own discovery. I'm at a loss, however of where to start. She and I are not dating and have yet to meet so I don't feel like this facet of our relationship is anything serious at this point. She is not mine. This limits my concept of what i'm allowed to enforce. My favorite rules and commands are generally non sexual in nature but I love the power trip. I feel kind of strange talking to her about it because I do not want to scare her away. She's the first unicorn we've found that was a good match so im terrified i'll push her the other direction. Is that immature? I guess if I don't feel like we can talk about it maybe it's not a good idea. If it were more than just for fun I would insists we did talk about it, we'd have to. Another issue with playing with her is that we can only text. She can take pictures for me but she has no way to cam with me or anything. Sorry if i'm rambling. Hopefully my thoughts are coherent. If not i'm sorry. Any advice in general would be most appriciated. Also, sorry for any typos. I'm using my phone.