Obediance training

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by BondageKink, Jun 23, 2009.

  1. BondageKink

    BondageKink New Member

    Hello all, In my past i have had some success with s/m relationships but now i have a problem. The girl im with now will call me master and acknowledges my position of power but hates being called "slave" , how do i train her better to become more open and submissive to the idea of a s/m relationship. She puts on a strong will deal and doesnt " refuse" being called slave but she doesnt like the idea and of course i want her to be comfortable in all that we might say/do as im sure every master does.

    ( this is my girlfriend btw so it is in real life stuff)

    thanks in advance !

  2. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    try using other words....... sub, slut, tramp, puppet, bitch, cunt, worm, whore.....

    and then, reserve the word "slave" for when shes specifically disobedient. shes probably feeling humiliated by the word. I kow some of the words i mentioned above are relatively harsh, but i have a slave who prefers to be called cunt over slave any day.

    Do you live this lifestyle 24/7 or jut at certain times?
  3. BondageKink

    BondageKink New Member

    well i want to aim for 24/7 or as much as possible but she is completely new to the idea and im wondering if she is even capable . Thanks for the word variations although i think those would offend her even more :(
  4. Nyx

    Nyx Member

    You could try the word 'servant'. My master used that at first until he became more comfortable with the idea of 'slave'.
  5. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    the trick is to find a word she is comfortable with, and use it as a stepping stone to more strenuous words like slave or whatever you choose. I personally prefer to use puppet as a start, because essentially, that's what beginners are. They need someone to guide them through the process, like a marionette, and then eventually it becomes second nature, they know what you want, and even if you change it up a little bit on them, they can adapt. at that point, they are no longer puppets, but they are whatever you wish them to be.

  6. I always get called cunt and bastard, which is oddly thrilling for me because these are names I've always been associated with as being insults aimed at men...
  7. BondageKink

    BondageKink New Member

    thank you very much all. i'll report back on any progress or lack there of

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