Hey folks. I'm not exactly sweet and innocent, but I'm pretty new to the idea of domination. I little about me, (sorry, couldn't find an intro section, used to using mobile apps) I've got a long distance girlfriend who is coming to my place the end of this year. We've known each other for a little over a year, having met online, but this will be our first face to face. We've been talking on the phone every night, and have been having some phone sex. We're very into each other, and she's cool with my divorce and having a kid, even though she's from a very strict religious family. Here's my question. We've discovered through talking, that she (and I, to the lesser extent) is very interested in bondage and domination. We're both total noobs about it though or at least she claims to be (I believe her) Does anyone have any advice? She wants to be tied up and spanked, and wants me to be as rough as she can handle, and we both would like this to lead to more. I understand the concept of a safe word, so that's no issue. The advice I want is, ideas on how to make our first time doing such a thing, as pleasurable and comfortable as possible? I mean, I don't want to just chain her to the wall and beat her with a whip while she's wearing a ball gag if it really is her first time (and keep in mind, our first time meeting each other in person, she's staying with me for a week) I would like for her to stick around, or ditch me later over something other than any perceived sexual torture. I have plenty of personal faults that can drive a woman off, lord knows I've done it, I just don't want to go overboard on this matter. Any advice appreciated. And, being a member of several forums, I know I may not have given enough info to receive the most help, so I'm open for any questions.