New to this [in practice at least]

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by alpha_shewolf, Dec 16, 2009.

  1. alpha_shewolf

    alpha_shewolf New Member

    My new girlfriend is really wants to try bondage, dom/sub stuff. She wants me to dom her. Neither of us really have experience in this. Any advice on how to ease into this? simple bondage stuff we could try?
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  2. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    theres lots of tips and tricks on this site, for both amatur and long timers, but the best advice is to communicate. find out what exactly she wants, and tell her what exactly you want, be completely honest with each other, and never ever let the communication die.

    oh yeah, and um, take pics and share them.
  3. alpha_shewolf

    alpha_shewolf New Member

    Haha. Maybe. =]

    I could use some tutorials on ways to tie her up, if anyone has links with information it would be greatly appreciated.
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  4. Google is a beautiful thing.

    Try here
  5. We're all still waiting for that picture of you!!! :p
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  6. Yeah Sparrow, what happened to that cling film/bondage tape corset you were telling us about so many moons ago? :D
  7. And the outfit with the mask, boots, gloves, etc!!!
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  8. alpha_shewolf

    alpha_shewolf New Member

    Thanks =]

    I figured I could A- putz around google looking for something good, or B- just ask people who know to direct me to something good
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  10. Funny you should mention this, OLP! I was scouring more posts, and I thought I was incapable of properly searching hehe I wanted to see it!
  11. Did you find the relevant posts after? :)
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  12. I did indeed =)
  13. GreyMac

    GreyMac Member

    Here are two sites for learning basic (and some advanced) rope bondage knots and techniques. Once you learn the 'two-column' tie which is quite simple, whole new worlds open up. Progress from there to the Chest harness and with those two ties alone you can do an amazing number of positions.

    I'm no Shibari expert (think origami using a human and rope as an art form) but I do love rope bondage. The first link below is a site that sells some of the best quality hemp rope on the market and in your choice of decorator colors!! It's not cheap but good toys and materials rarely are. The second one below, 'Two Knotty Boys' has a tutorial section where you can get into much more complex knots that will make even an Eagle Scout or an old sailor scratch their heads. there's also a gallery where you can see some of the real art form Shibari rope bondage.

    You can also get 6 millimeter (1/4 inch) or 8mm (3/8 inch) rope at Home Depot or Lowes quite reasonably. Get the more expensive good stuff, it's softer and won't leave rope burns. You can feel the difference, it's noticably softer to the touch.

    You need enough rope so that you have a 10 foot piece for each limb, a couple of 20 foot pieces for more complex ties and a 30 foot piece for the chest harness. The chest harness is easier to tie than you might think and when you've done that one once, you'll feel you've done some real bondage and so will your captive.

    If you buy rope that has nylon or polyesther content, tightly wrap a piece of masking tape at the place where you're going to cut it, then cut with very sharp scissors or blade. No sawing motions! Then burn just the ends with a lighter to keep them from unraveling. Do this over the kitchen sink so you don't have to worry about any drops from the hot nylon (It gets very hot when melted - Be careful!) After the ends are singed, you can tear away the masking tape remnants.

    Basic care for your submissive involves making sure they have circulation at all times and ask them often if they're OK until you get a feel for their boundaries.
    Buy a pair of EMT shears and keep them handy at all times. If your subbie gets a cramp or panics you'll need to get her out of the ropes quickly.

    Good luck and if I can be of help, please don't hesitate to ask.
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  14. alpha_shewolf

    alpha_shewolf New Member

    <3 Thanks GreyMac. I'm not sure if we'll be taking any photos yet, but if we decide to we'll deffinately share them here
  15. GreyMac

    GreyMac Member

    My Love! OLP! What have you been telling alpha_shewolf when I wasn't around to defend myself ?!?

    My penchant for asking for pictures has been greatly exagerated. Just because My Love, My lord felt I should put the words "Pictures Please" in my signature, now I've got a reputation, jeeez...

    alpha_shemale, you're welcome. :)

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