I've been curious and open-minded about bdsm for a while and now I happen to be dating a woman who used to be a professional dom and who I think preferrs being submissive. I've been toying with her and she's been teaching me how to whip her, but we seem to have hit a wall where she doesn't tell me what to say, and the funny jokes that come to my mind are a distraction to her. In short, I really need to know where to find ideas of what to say (and probably also what to do) while punishing her. Are there resources full of ideas of what to say? She in particular said she'd like me to do teacher and/or priest role play, but I keep thinking that I should have a clear subject that I'm teaching and both of us are anti-christianity so it's hard for me to think of being a priest without referencing the typical fallacies that go with them. I know, I must sound retarded to you. Please help me learn how to not miss the point of it all. I am pretty vanilla and while I want to be able to be punished for her and I think I could like it, I tend to complain too much about the pain, even when I can take it. It's the anticipation of getting hit that bothers me more than being hit. I'm kinda OCD in a few respects too, so I would probably work well with anything that is made for such people to handle. Aside from not knowing what to say, dom is easy for me. My family has a history of being abusive that I control and do not repeat, so a tiny bit of aggression taken out on someone in a controlled fashion is familiar to me.