I've read the "Newcomers FAQ" thread (thanks for that, by the way), but I still feel the need to post... My partner and I have experimented with very light bondage (typical vanilla stuff, using one of his neck ties, etc.), though that was years ago. We're finally coming out of a dry spell in our sex life (after the birth of our first child), and we're excitedly looking back at that time and realizing how fun it was. In the "Newcomers FAQ" thread, I'd say of Sebastian's 4 categories, my interests lean primarily toward bondage, some control, maybe mild pain (I've only ever experimented alone), and humiliation, well, not-so-much. My partner and I have had on-going conversation, and I feel like we're covering some good ground. I guess what I'm coming here for, is, well, for lack of a better word: inspiration. Any photos, videos, or erotica I manage to find with the keywords I know seem to pull up way too extreme of examples to be practical in our lives. Oh, also: are any of you parents of young ones? How do you manage? I can only guess that anything that's used will need to have the ability for a quick release, seeing as our toddler still requires a moderate amount of night time parenting. And in that vein, what are some non-breast pleasure/pain points to play with (aside from the obvious below-the-waist zone). Any rough nipple/breast play is going to be on hold until I'm done breastfeeding this child and any subsequent ones. And one more thing! What are some things you can have implemented while your partner is away? I came across remote control panties (see how new I am to toys?) and I only wish they had wi-fi so he could control them from work...Ha! Thank you all in advance for any advice or direction.