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Nohvi, it's a reasonable fear. What I mean by that is men do sometimes leave women for younger women. How common it actually is I don't know, but certainly one sees it in the media all the time. So what do you do about it?
1) Accept that it's a genuine concern of yours and talk to him about it. Explain your fears and ask him what his thoughts are. Hopefully he'll listen respectfully, acknowledge your worries, and reassure you that he wouldn't do that. If he doesn't, then you need to think about what that might mean.
2) If it seems realistic that he might eventually leave you, make contingency plans. Don't put yourself in a situation where his leaving would completely screw you over. In ages past, many 'abandoned women' had no job skills, no separate savings, etc. So don't quit your job to be with him. Make sure that you have a separate means of support. That doesn't mean don't commit to him; just don't become utterly dependent on him. Some subs give their dom complete control over the family finances, but that's probably not a good idea for you. And make sure that any assets you two acquire are jointly owned so that you have an equal claim on them.
3) Work hard to keep your looks and develop your sexual skills. That sounds really sexist, but that's not how I mean it. One element of submissiveness can be the obligation to maintain a sexually attractive appearance for one's dom. So embrace that not as an obligation of being a woman, but as an obligation of being a sub. Turn this worry into a positive element of your submission, and find ways to have fun with it. At the moment, you feel sort of powerless, and that's part of why you're worried. So take control of the issue, find some power over it, and it will reduce your fear.
4) Realize that he might leave you for reasons that have nothing to do with your age. At the moment, your logic is "if I were younger, he wouldn't leave me." But that's not true. Guys cheat on and leave women for all sorts of reasons that have nothing to do with age and looks. Consider Halle Berry--a truly gorgeous woman, and yet her husband cheated on her. Sandra Bullock, who is fairly attractive, had the same thing happen. My ex-husband left me because I wasn't fat enough for him--no joke. (Let me tell you, there's nothing in American culture to prepare you for getting dumped because you're not fat enough). People leave each other for all sorts of reasons. Now, saying this might make you more nervous, but that's not what I'm trying to do. My point is that you don't know what the future of your relationship will look like. He might leave you for a young woman. He might leave you for a man. He might stay deliriously happy with you until you die. He might get hit by a bus tomorrow. You might decide you don't want a dom and leave him. You might fall in love with an older man. The future is uncertain, but not simply because he's younger than you are. Accept that you can't control these things, and don't let that fact destroy your ability to commit yourself to a relationship that is working.
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