Heh... just typing the topic of this thread feels like an Oxymoron to me... I don't know where to begin with everything that's going on, so I'll just try to get it all in there. My girlfriend has always been into BDSM... I've always been curious about it, but have always been with VERY vanilla women until I met this one. Spanking a woman ONCE or TWICE was all I ever did before I met this girl. Now, I have a full blown sub on my hands who likes to be naughty. She purposely fights, talks back, and generally misbehaves, just so she can be punished more. There is no problem with this, except for the fact that she's not submissive at all, but neither is she trying to be dominant. She wants me to dominate her, but she wants to fight me all the time, so I reply with harder spanking, or more force. I see where she thinks it's going to go, I just don't really know how to handle it. I'm a strong guy, and she's a strong girl, but sometimes I feel like I'm about to snap a limb or something, wrestling her into a restraint to tie her up. I swear I sweat more trying to put her in a binding than during the actual act of punishing her. Any suggestions would be great. I'm going shopping at Home Dungeon Depot later (lol) and buying a few lengths of rope, chain, and dowel rods with some Chrome hardware and carabiners. This weekend (funny it's Valentine's Day) is going to be the first time I get to really spend a whole day with her... We don't live together, and our houses are 15 minutes apart, so thus far it has been late night adventures at her house after we both put our kids to bed.