My sub and I (still fairly new to this and a young couple) did a scene this weekend and I pushed her boundaries with spanking both with my hand and a long wooden ruler. She looked like she was in heaven afterwards, and her tears really turned me on, but I started feeling soft and wanted just to hold her and care for her afterwards. She was ready and willing for anything at this point and we usually enjoy rough sex and humiliation, but I couldn't bring myself to do it this time! I understand that aftercare is important after a scene, but I sort of initiated it midscene. Has anyone experienced this? I'm guessing it's because we are a first for each other and when her boundaries are pushed, so are mine. Usually I'm the one pushing limits which is why it seems strange. If you've felt this, is it a feeling that passes over time when you become more experienced in bdsm?