I will try and make this short. Here's a little background. I'm 39, female. My husband and I got into bdsm about 6 months ago. He is an amazing Sir and everything was going amazingly! All he had to do was look at me and I would get turned on (not to mention the whole bdsm thing was a HUGE turn on). I would wake up in the morning ready to go and could hardly wait to get home from work so he could take control. Well about 6 weeks ago I had minor surgery. Sex was not possible for 3-4 days and anything bdsm related was not possible until about 2weeks ago (and that was very mild). I feel like I have lost my drive/desire for sex. Some nights I can really take it or leave it and that stomach flipping turn on is not there anymore. I know that Sir was very concerned about hurting me so he has really taken it easy on me and we have talked about that. I have let him know that it's ok and I will let him know if anything is too much (he can read me like a book but we do have a safe word and he knows I will use it if I need to). Also, I have always been able to orgasm through oral sex(actually the only way I've been able to orgasm) and now that is even hit or miss. Has anyone experienced this before? Is it my age, lack of focus....?