Loves to be tied up.....

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by whosasexybitch, Apr 17, 2012.

  1. whosasexybitch

    whosasexybitch New Member

    I LOVE to be tied up, but my bf has never really gotten to try it how do i get him to tie me up without him getting nervous???:)
  2. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Bondage is the most technically challenging area of play for doms. A dom has to know something about how to tie knots and work with ropes, and he has to know how to avoid injury to the sub.

    Before I try to make recommendations, let me ask: does your bf have any experience being dominant with you, or is this your first venture into getting him to dominate you? Have you read the Newcomer's FAQ post about kinkifying your vanilla boyfriend?
  3. whosasexybitch

    whosasexybitch New Member

    we are getting there with domination, i just want him to start out with my under the bed restraint system but he seems nervous about it all when i bring it up
  4. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Ok, so he has some domming experience under his belt. That's a much easier proposition than getting a totally vanilla guy to jump into bondage.

    If you want him to really be exploring bondage, get him a copy of Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook. That will cover all the basics of things like knot-tying, safety, and so on. I'd suggest starting with a pair of leather wrist manacles. They're easy to use and pretty safe. That will help him get used to the idea of immobilizing you.

    Then drop Wiseman on him and help him practice rope ties on you. Don't do sex play while he's first practicing. He needs to have room to get the ties wrong, check the handbook and see what he did wrong, and then correct it, without worrying about looking dommish or keeping you aroused.

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