My wife and I have been married for 5 years, when we met she told me she was into bdsm and I don't think i understood near as much as I thought I did on the subject, she is a submissive and for the past few years we have been somewhat off and on about trying things, mainly I believe due to my inexperience in this lifestyle. I am extremely interested in the idea of being a dominant/master for her, but there are also disconnects. I really want to please her and give her what she needs, but I have no idea where to start, or what the best way to go about all of this is. we have written up rules, contracts etc. but essentially my imagination runs out or I find myself not trusting her to tell me if I am going too far. In short this is something that I want to do as a lifestyle, I just fee that I need to be more knowledgeable on the subject in order to be the dominant that she needs.