Looking for Dominatrix ideas

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by scarlettbear, Jun 5, 2013.

  1. scarlettbear

    scarlettbear New Member

    Here is the short version, for those of you who do not like to read long paragraphs:

    Hi.

    My husband loves to be tied up and used, and I am looking for ideas of creative and interesting ways to abuse him. The more creative and the more interesting the better!


    Long version, with many more useful details:
    Greetings, my fellows.

    My husband and I have been experimenting with a variety of ways for me to dominate him, and we are both having a lot of fun. However, we are at a difficult point because there is a narrow gap between not stimulating enough to wildly excite him and too risque to implement. So, I was hoping to get ideas from an experienced BDSM community as to how we can introduce some new and surprising elements into our sessions. To give you an idea about what kinds of suggestions I am looking for, here are the things that are out-of-bounds for him:

    Assured Exhibitionism: Being out in public with anything visibly kinky about him is no good. However, being in public wearing something kinky but hidden is an interesting possibility and it also might work to put him in a situation where he isn't sure if people can see him or not.
    Partners: No other people can be directly involved.
    Shaving: The way he puts it is that he is okay with having any hair shaved that is normally hidden while he is wearing a T-shirt and shorts.
    Waste: Definitely nothing involving poop, but I think he is fine with pee as long as he isn't made to drink it.

    Here are some of the things we have done to give you an idea of what is in-bounds:

    Anal: We have done a lot with inserting butt plugs and vibrators and using a strap-on to screw him in several positions - some with him tied and some not.
    Bondage: He loves being tied up in strict and interesting positions, especially if it is a position that is conducive to being abused somehow. He also likes to be made to do things like chores and eating meals while tied up, especially when it is inconvenient or difficult because of the bondage.
    Cum: He is forced to eat his own cum, often sucking it out of panties.
    Feminization: Making him wear women's underwear and sometimes bras (I even ordered him his own special panties, and those drive him nuts!) and calling him by girl's names, as well as names like slut and whore.
    Gags: He gets off on being gagged - we have been using a smallish ball gag but have plans to get a more intense one. I also make him deep-throat my strap on before screwing him with it most days I get it out.
    Games: He likes rules, even when they are not in his favor, so having games and scenarios where his performance somehow affects what will happen to him is great!
    Humiliation: He enjoys being humiliated a lot, but this is the most difficult interest to satisfy because in order to humiliate him, he pretty much needs to be forced to do something that he doesn't want to do, but isn't completely out-of-bounds. This is a narrow range, because he enjoys just about everything I can think of, even when I think it is pretty humiliating!

    Thanks in advance for the tips, I hope we can put them to good use!
     
  2. Shepherd1

    Shepherd1 New Member

    The first thing that came to mind; and I've heard it here many times; is having him masturbate; to release or not your choice; in a public place. Like a work bathroom stall or a dressing room. And you an set this up via text message or a predetermined time of the day. Another would be for him to wear a bitt plug out in public. Doing his chores of errands. The daily grind stuff. Or if he works; that's be especially humiliating for him because he wouldn't know if his walk was off or if he was sitting awkwardly. Hope those help.
     
  3. EG1984

    EG1984 New Member

    Well, i have to disagree about the humiliation part, it's just my own opinion of course but i don't think that if he enjoys something it means that it's not humiliating. I do however know that with time and experience the need for deeper things arise and the old things tend to get less stimulating so there is always a need to flirt with the boundries while not crossing them.
    In that regard, i can suggest that maybe you try some "Pet" play, dress him as a puppy for example (there are even plugs with tails that are very nice) and make him act the part while you play his owner.
    Also in a different regard, maybe you didn't try orgasm denial sessions, i can tell you from experience that an hour long session can make a man climb the walls, if you tease him hard enough you can make him beg and moan and even cry sometimes, the release and pleasure from an orgasm after a session like this is something to behold, very recommended.

    In any case, i wish you a fun and safe game.
     
  4. adultfulltilt.com

    adultfulltilt.com New Member

    I would suggest using a chastity device in public. They are unnoticeable and keeps him reminded all day of who own his cock. Or the but plug idea in public is good too. The public aspect usual deals with the "possibility of being caught" So I would suggest (if you live in a city) find a partial hidden spot and have him masturbate there or have sex there. Or you could have him shave his ass (and i mean all up in there) and rub lotion on, then wear some little panties and have him go out in public doing everyday stuff. Hope this helps :) btw check the site in my sig for chastity we have a pretty good selection of them. Plus discounts for all smplace members. :)
     
  5. malvina

    malvina Active Member

    Ummmm, try dressing like a nun and use a dildo shaped like a cross. MaYbe tie him to the bed with your panties and pour candlewax all over him. just random ideas I suppose
     

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