Kink it up?

demonoid.vessel.666 · Mar 17, 2011

What are some other kinky things to try other than bondage/d/s?
Partner only into very light bondage atm and want to kink it up but don't wanna scare her cuz I have before and don't wanna again. Well I think I did but not sure. Anyway...

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Reason I ask is cuz we don't really know what to try. Suggestions? All I can ever think of has hints of bdsm but wanna explore other things. There must be other stuff to try...

WillingToTry · Mar 17, 2011

Ok, I'm the one that just admitted I've never even given a blow job so maybe I'm not the one to say this... but I googled "submissive checklist for dom" and the 3rd one down has an online form with TONS of ideas. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to link it here, but if you PM me I'll send it over. There are almost 300 things on that kink list!

sillylittlepet · Mar 18, 2011

link it please!!

you're totally allowed to link things

demonoid.vessel.666 · Mar 18, 2011

Just sent pm but yea would be good for everyone to see!

WillingToTry · Mar 18, 2011

Ok, here it is. I couldn't get it to e-mail like it's supposed to, but the list is really varied. SO my Excel had blank spots in it. This is only just over 200.

http://www.slave-kas.com/interests.html

WillingToTry · Mar 18, 2011

Here, this one has 264, those are the two I've found with the most on them.

http://everything2.com/title/Submissive+BDSM+Play+Partner+Check+List

demonoid.vessel.666 · Mar 18, 2011

Hmm.
Noticed one in the list

-gunplay-

Does anyone really do this? If so I hope you take the bullets out! Imagine that. "do u want me to blow your"..BANG! ! !... "SHIT I FORGOT TO TAKE THE BULLETS OUT." LMFAO. Nah seriously that would be shit.

demonoid.vessel.666 · Mar 18, 2011

Thanks for the links. Got some ideas now : )

P.S.Eudonym · Mar 18, 2011

DV, if you scared your partner before than you want to take it extra slow and make sure that she knows what she is getting into. So, what you really need to do is not go over checklists but rather ask her what would interest her. Maybe suggest that she read some BDSM related stories and mark the things that seem arousing to her or just have her come up with things that she dreamt of or thought of in the past.

One thing you could try is go for things that, at first glance, do not seem like BDSM, which basically boils down to mild senseplay. Feathers, icecubes, massage oils, warm stones maybe a blindfold etc. Basically things that stimulate her senses in a way that is primarily comfortable and arousing but also requires some restraint on her side to get the full experience. Most women enjoy this even if they do not enjoy BDSM, so you run little risk here. If she enjoys that, you can move slowly to couple it with bondage and see where it takes you. If she enjoys that, then you can move into mild painplay or other things.

The idea here is that you first introduce her to the idea that restraint, by her choice, can increase her sensual experience. Be warned however that being willing to experiment does not equal being into BDSM. Be prepared that it may just not be for her.

As a sidenote, I can see gunplay happening as either an insertion tool for humiliationplay or as a prop for forceplay to increase the sense of the fantasy. Still, involving a gun, even an empty one, in an emotionally charged situation is never a good idea in my mind.

demonoid.vessel.666 · Mar 18, 2011

Ps. Yea we are kinda over the whole sensation thing. Umm. We kind of go through stages of what we are into like a couple of years ago we were really into watersports then she wanted spanking and dominating her for a while, etc, etc, shes into light bondage AT THE MOMENT so wot other things can i add to pleasure her? But it doesnt matter now anyway, tried out some new ideas on her earlier tonight from the list. Went pretty good. Again, thanks for the lists! And thanks PS for your input. I value everyones opinins for what they are worth : )

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