Keeping an erection throughout punishment

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by pepeluism, Nov 20, 2010.

  1. pepeluism

    pepeluism Member

    A mistress I met has a thing for finding a slave who can go through a session with a full erection.

    I usually start every session with an erection, and humiliation gets me really hard, but after certain amount of pain, my dick goes limp. I have a very small dick, so she tells me that should make it easier for me to keep my hard on, but I don't know about that.

    I keep trying, but I just can't imagine that I could keep an erection while crying and begging for mercy as I'm bullwhipped. Also, it doesn't help I was kicked in the balls repeatedly by a former mistress every time I got an erection in her prescence. How can I keep an erection while this one kicks me?

    The obvious answer is viagra, but she wants me to actually keep it naturally. Any ideas? Is this even possible?
  2. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    This is basically unreasonable. A man cannot control his erection, and even during arousing sex, a man's hard-on can rise and fall. Nor does viagra guarantee an erection, contrary to popular imagination. You could try a cock ring, but as I noted on another thread, using a cock ring for more than 30 minutes at a time can cause permanent damage to the veins and artery in the penis.

    You simply need to explain that what she's asking is not really possible. Even porn stars don't stay hard constantly through sex. Of course, she can still demand it and punish you for not doing it, but that's a game that needs to be undertaken with an understand that she's demanding something unreasonable.
    Last edited: Nov 20, 2010
  3. Tumbl3

    Tumbl3 Member

    Yeah Seb hit the answer perfectly. That is completely unrealistic. Also, if she gets upset and "dumps" you because of it, don't be sad. Go on to another dom who actually has a grasp on reality.
  4. L8NightQ

    L8NightQ Member

    Agreed. Won't happen.

    And Seb is right about the cock ring, over time it became harder to keep an erection without one. This condition can correct itself when you stop using it so much, but who want's to go through that.

    Whatever you do artificially to keep it hard will make it more difficult to keep an erection later. Don't fall into that trap.
  5. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    I suppose Caverject might enable you to stay hard through torture, but that requires 1) A prescription that's fairly hard to get and 2) injecting the drug into your cock, which is why only guys with serious impotence problems use it.
  6. pepeluism

    pepeluism Member

    Well, she really is open to a lot of my fantasies, so I want to try as hard as I can with what she wants.

    I used cock rings before, but not the "tight" kind that would help with an erection. Just bought one earlier today and tried some things. Looks like it will help a lot. Thanks for the tip. I'll see her tonight. Let's see how it goes.
  7. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    I think the thing to do would be to alternate pain play with other activities that can stimulate your cock. Perhaps she can start with light pain play and slowly increase it up to the point that you begin to lose your erection. Then take a break from that for something that you find arousing, such as boot licking. Then once your hard on gets firmer, go back to pain. Or she might give you periodic breaks from torture to masturbate, or she might stroke you herself periodically to help you maintain the erection. Unless you're in your early 20s, it's very hard to maintain a full hard-on for prolonged periods of time. So the thing to do is develop strategies to revive the firmness as it begins to flag. Perhaps over time you can train your cock to last longer.
  8. pepeluism

    pepeluism Member

    Thank you Sebastian. She tried a few of those things last night. When we initially met I had told her my preference was for her to wear as little clothes as possible. Initially she didn't want to, but last night during the session she wore only a small thong. That was a huge help.

    Then, every time my cock started to go limp, she would stop and would allow me to stroke it back up. She also mixed some of the humiliation that she thought had gotten me hard before, though that didn't go as well.

    It wasn't a resounding success, but I was hard for a very long time, even as the worse of the torture was going on. Eventually I was completely spent, and there was no way to get it up.

    I know there's no way she will touch my dick unless it is to hurt it, so I'm not even going to suggest that she stroke it.
  9. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    It sounds like you're communicating with her about what's working and what's not working. That's critical. Keep giving her feedback about what you need to be able to do what she's asking, and the two of you can work toward your goals here.

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