So, I'm finally back after my last laptop went to heaven...! I've settled down a bit since then and I ended up giving the whole relationship thing a go again. I know that some people here think that I can be a little bit of a weirdo thanks to some of the things I have to say when it comes to the sub side of things, but lately my dom side has been making more of an appearance and it's surprisingly the first time that anything BDSM related has caused me problems... Think what I say about subbing is bad? At least then I'm the one getting hurt and I know that I can take the pain. My most recent GF was a really sweet girl and a bit of a noob to BSDM... I was going to and did mean to take it easy on her, but I lost myself in the moment for a split second and ended up hurting her more than was acceptable... After that I kind of turned into a puddle of goo and the rest of the sex was all sweet and mushy vanilla stuff. She was really understanding and shit, but I think it freaked me out more than it did her... I didn't touch her again for fear of snapping like that again, which lead to me inevitably getting dumped for not putting out. Did I simply choose someone a little too sweet for me, or do I seriously need to get my shit together? It's been bugging me, and I haven't hooked up with anyone since.