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Hi, SS. Has he read the Newcomer's FAQ? That will answer some of his questions and give him some things to think about. If he's brand new to domming, you need to help him build up his confidence and help him find his dominant side. One thing that might help is to start slow. The part of bdsm that guys get into most easily is simple control. Make a deal with your bf that he gets to have sex whenever he wants it, wherever he wants it, and in whatever way he wants it (within any limits that you as the sub feel a need to set, so it's perfectly ok for you to say that play has to stop after 11pm on a work night or whatever). But once he gets used to the idea that he gets a blow job whenever he wants one, he will probably start seeing what's in this for him. Once he's gotten comfortable with just the basic idea of being in control, start working in bondage, or erotic torture, or whatever other types of play you want him to engage in.
If he's feeling uncomfortable or awkward, you need to help him understand that you are enjoying being used. Sub psychology is hard for many doms to understand, so he may well be thinking something like "I'd love to spit in her face, but there's no way she'd enjoy THAT." You, however, might live to get spit on. So help him build his confidence and dominance by playing into what he does. When he does something you like, make your enjoyment of it clear. Say "thank you, Sir, may I have another?" or make some noises or writhe around. I'm not suggesting that you fake it; just make sure that he can tell that you're enjoying it so that he learns that he can do some of the things that social convention tells him he's never supposed to do to his gf.
Communication is critical, esp. at the start of a bdsm relationship. So have regular talks about what you liked and didn't like about what he did. Give him positive feedback and suggestions for how he could have done something better ("I really liked it when you called me a dirty slut. Could you do that more often?"). Ask him what he enjoyed and what he's fantasizing about doing.
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