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its the age old adage that even bad attention is still attention... subs often act up to get their masters to pay them attention when they feel like they aren't getting enough...
this makes sense to me, however, i have never understood why one would not just go to their dom/master and address the issue of not getting enough attention. one of the biggest draws of lifestyle bdsm to me is clear cut communication.
or when they know that said master has had a stressful day, and punishing them would relieve said stress... Since a slave/sub usually cant initiate a scene, they do so crtreatively by doing something they know they should not...
here, again, i think i would rather just remind him that i am available as he wishes; soothe the bad day with comforting things, being good, and out of the way; and let him choose if he wants to relieve himself in that way. then again, i suppose it comes down to the type of relationship you have and level of communication. i've already made it infinitely clear to him that i don't have to have done anything "bad" to be told to endure physically trying things... some of the "punishments" i hear about, i am actually given as rewards... maybe it is just a semantics thing with me.
it all comes down to the level of devotion really, and how well you pay attention to each other as dom and sub.
hehe, Mr. Sparrow69, you really are a sadist, slyly questioning my level of devotion b/c i do not understand punishments *winks and smiles jokingly*
honestly, that is what i question or i guess don't understand. if there is communication, devotion and one is paying good attention and being obedient, why would there be a need to be punished or to punish? or is it just that some people enjoy the act of punishing or being punished? maybe i don't understand that part. i, for one, HATE being punished and see it as honest to goodness PUNISHMENT. it's not at all a game to me, which is how i see "punishment" presented a lot.
some subs re inexperienced and make mistakes, and get punished, but sooner or later they know the ropes, and then they intentionally make mistakes to be humbled and punished, as a way of reinforcing their masters view/feeling of their own superiority.
is this a humiliation thing?
and again, everyone, sorry. i have a feeling every single other person here "gets" this but me. so if the questions seem inane, my apologies.
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