How to recognoize a Dominatrix?

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by TheSeeker, May 24, 2011.

  1. TheSeeker

    TheSeeker New Member

    I know most of the people do this when they have a relationship or maybe just for fun, but is there anyway to know if a person (Female especially) is a Dominatrix or does BDSM?

    The Personality? Behavior? Dressing style?
     
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  2. SFbound4fun

    SFbound4fun New Member

    I'd say dress but really it's hard to say cause so many BDSM people dress normally except when going to BDSM event. Think about the amount of BDSM people who have had their pics put up on the net ... sure don't see them all walking around in BDSM outfits at Walmart.

    Also I think it's easier if you let them find you -

    I used to wear an "O" Ring (silver) and even though I was a normal looking guy I'd still get comments on it now and then :)
     
  3. master jey

    master jey Moderator

    Yeah ring of O if I'm correct dominants wear it on the right hand subs on left
     
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  4. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Jey, in the gay community, left is the dominant side and right the submissive side. I don't know if that holds true among straights.

    One thing to do is look for small clues. Many dominant men and women wear a leather jacket. Some will have a pair of handcuffs worn on a jacket shoulder, belt, perhaps a purse strap. This is harder to spot, but a handcuff key on a key ring is a good indicator. Some use a tiny flogger as a key fob.

    If you're talking to someone you suspect might be dominant, try being unusually deferential--calling them Sir or Ma'am regularly, looking down when you speak to them, or giving them your submissive eyes when you make eye contact. A vanilla person is not likely to recognize those gestures, unless you're being really over the top.
     
  5. Yeah I did not know about this stuff in high school but I look back and I remembered a teacher with the Ring of O don't remember which side tho. And the BDSM symbol magnet on their desk. Looking back she was awfully aggressive.
     
  6. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    And pretty ballsy for a high school teacher to be flagging like that. High school teachers get fired for being into BDSM if it comes out.
     

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