How to find someone who like to play rough?

Discussion in 'Guest forum' started by Unregistered, Nov 18, 2012.

  1. Unregistered

    Unregistered Guest

    It's something that I've always had trouble with... How did you other subs out there find someone who liked to hurt you in bed?
  2. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator

    Well, you could date 'normally' and see if the person you like is willing to give it a try. There's a fair chance that they're inexperienced rather than vanilla (in the Newcomer's FAQ, there's a post on making a nice vanilla partner into a dom).

    Or you could meet people at your local munches (if you're in or near any city, there's usually a kink group meeting at bars. Google or Fetlife are good ways of finding them). Or you could use online dating and meet people on sites like collarme and fetlife (fet isn't a dating site, but it can be good for networking and finding events near you).
  3. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    All good suggestions. On vanilla dating sites, you can drop hints (using terms like SSC), mention that you love the movie Secretary, or you read 50 Shades of Grey and it's gotten you thinking about exploring.

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