How to find a dom

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by College_Kitten, Apr 15, 2011.

  1. College_Kitten

    College_Kitten New Member

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    I'm a new submissive...finally getting the guts to really admit I am one. I've read...well basically everything I could find, researched and poked, and even played in a few online roleplays, but I think I'm ready to take the next step and actually find a Dom. I live in a fairly small college town, and i have to keep a air of respectability for my job, and my future career. Any suggestions on ways to find a Dom? I know about the personals forum but I'm looking for a way to find someone locally. I'm a student so relocation isn't really a choice for me.
  2. sebastian

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    Look to see if your town has a munch. Small towns often don't but a college town might. If your town doesn't have one, the closest large town might. If you can find one, attend the meetings and introduce yourself as a sub and look for the quality doms. If that doesn't work, you might look to kinkify a Nice Vanilla Boyfriend (as I discuss in the FAQ). If that doesn't work, you might just have to accept that your current circumstances are going to make finding a dom difficult; wait until you graduate and make moving to a larger city one of your job-hunting requirements.
  3. master jey

    master jey Moderator

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    have you tried collarme?
  4. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator

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    Edit: The first time I replied, there was a joke here regarding my username on a different forum. Then i realized that it made no sense here. Sorry.

    Jokes aside, look online, places like collarme, or looking up a dungeon or something in your area on google can help.
    Last edited: Apr 17, 2011
  5. Gunfingers

    Gunfingers New Member

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    Depending on what part of Illinois you're from I could help you find something around here.

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    I met my baby and her girlfriend on cl about a year ago we have been one happy family thus far
  7. Sir Vicarious

    Sir Vicarious New Member

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    All the suggestions are good, I would also add. try to find out what type of sub you are. That will give you an idea of what type of master/ dom you need.

    For example a masochist is a good masochist is a good match to a sadist, and probably a bad match for someone with a VERY low pain tolerance.

    So try to discover what you need/ want, maybe not all of it, but get general ideas. Your needs and wants can tell you alot.
  8. MasterMax83

    MasterMax83 New Member

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    All of the above is good advice. You might also want to have a look at I have made contact with a lot of really good people. Just be who you are and in any case be careful. You should do fine.

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