How did you get into bdsm?

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by gone xo, Mar 5, 2012.

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  1. gone xo

    gone xo New Member

    ... or how did your interest in bdsm originate, also if you feel like sharing what was your initial feeling about it.

    I personally have trouble remembering when it first started. think it may have stemmed from a sort of uniform fetish back some time ago when i was going to private school. i've always had a taste for things that seemed contrary to vanilla.

    Can't say I had any uneasy feelings about it arrousing me or anything, though when a close friend of mine first asked me to be her master I seemed a little put off. For some reason when it came down to dominating a woman it went against something deep inside, although I think I would have felt much different if she was a he...
     
  2. Elegant_Thrall

    Elegant_Thrall New Member

    Well my "discovery" of porn, as it were, took place when I was about 13 years old when I stumbled upon my dad watching some. Naturally, next opportunity I got for some alone time with the family computer, I did a little googling. I looked at all kinds of stuff, marvelling at the weirdness of it all. Of course I eventually found some bdsm stuff and assorted fetish stuff and I immediately knew I liked it more than the other stuff.
     
  3. master jey

    master jey Moderator

    after having seen japanese girls puke in each others mouths you can't exactly go back to playboy :)

    Randy Marsh
     
  4. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

  5. master jey

    master jey Moderator

    Easter you go kinkier it gets
     
  6. Anna2

    Anna2 Member

    I've enjoyed aspects of bdsm with many of my boyfriends, it is only within the last year or so that I knew there was a name for the types of activities I enjoyed and that they all fall under the bdsm umbrella. In other words, I've always liked it.
     
  7. slavebrat

    slavebrat New Member

    My interest stems back to my childhood. I'd always have fantasies of sexual domination throughout my adolescence, teens and my adult life. I just didn't know that there was an actual lifestyle until I met a sub who asked me to be his domme. I was intrigued. So I did my research, had fun playing dommee. Because of the research I started to realize that I have some very submissive tendences. So, I found a dom who helped me to connect with my submissive side. I found that I absolutely loved being submissive than domme. I then started training for my submissive side and found I had a desire to be a slave. This is the one place I found peace and purpose.
     
  8. glasgow-sub

    glasgow-sub New Member

    When I was younger I used to fantasize about older men taking advantage of me and tying me up. I've always encouraged men to have rough sex with me, but it's only very recently that I started to do my research and discover there's a name to what I am and what I like. I've still not really had any experience of being dominated, but I fantasize about it. Like slavebrat said 'this is the one place I find peace and purpose' - you hit the nail on the head with that one! Although I kinda don't feel at peace just now because I don't have a real life Dom. I don't really know how to start it all off, should I aim for an actual relationship with a Dom straight off, or maybe just play a few times first to see how I like it!? Hmmmm
     
  9. JettOnly

    JettOnly Member

    Well to be honest being in the Goth scene I was always about people in the BDSM scene but I thought it was all about whips and things
    I didnt think I had any experience in BDSM - even when I was in a pet shop with my partner trying on dog collars I didnt think that had anything to do with BDSM

    Then I met someone who said he was into it, I looked into it. He turned out to be an azz and gave me a pretty bad experience
    But at the same time doing research and talking to people on here and other places I realised that I could hopefully be into BDSM lite :) and enjoy this bits of it I enjoy and there are (a few) people out there into similar so its possible I might meet up with them :)
     
  10. gone xo

    gone xo New Member

    that's pretty nifty, wish I could offer advice to glasgow :x
     
  11. JettOnly

    JettOnly Member

    glasgow-sub - from a a Glasgow girl :)
    I am still very much learning as well but one thing I am learning the most is dont rush
    What I am finding really helpful is talking to people online, possibly meeting them in real life too but not rushing things and making FRIENDS
    I have found several people who have been kind enough to take the time to talk tru things with me, explain what they like and drawing my kinks out of me
    and making me see that I dont have to jump into some kind of hard core pain thing just because I think i identify as more of a sub
    I can take the time to figure out what levels I want and hold out for someone who matches up with that
    and at the same time have fun learning and chatting
    and people have been kind enough to say that helping a wide eyed noob like me isnt all one sided, as I ask questions they have to think and explore in their minds what they like and why they like it and they find new things as well

    Hope that helps a little
     
  12. MargaretS

    MargaretS New Member

    I got interested.. or at least realized I was interested after I saw my mom doing it. I woke up in the middle of the night and heard her voice coming from the den. When I came down the steps I saw her tied face down on our coffee table. The guy she had gone on a date with that night was having sex with her from behind. She was blindfolded and he was facing the other way and didn't see me so I watched for a while..

    it was incredible..
     
  13. Andre

    Andre New Member

    I recall being quite fascinated in 7th grade social studies when we did Greek and Roman slaves...
     
  14. Soteria

    Soteria New Member

    I've always felt in a way removed from the world around me, as if i should know some deep thing they didn't even dream about. Then, about three years ago, i started reading extensively, any kind of genre, and stumbeled on erotic BDSM romance novels, and had an epifany. I was short of breath and wet in no time . I have never in my life had such an intense reaction as from reading that. No wonder normal sex left me feeling unsatisfied and and only got me moderatly hot. Orgams always came from me riding( cause i know how to make myself come) with my eyes closed and imagining some unknown figure looming in the shadow ordering me to come. Everything after that had a new feeling to it, like it should be discovered again through the new point of view. I spent a lot of time considering some of my older friends, and there is this particular couple where she always had her eyes looking down when he was in the same room. I remember thinking that doing that is just so very right. They are the happiest couple i know.
     
  15. Mercyful Fate

    Mercyful Fate New Member

    Personally I understood it when started to be lost in contemplation of girls. In youth. Very much it would be desirable them to undress and torture.
     
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