I'll begin by explaining a couple of things about myself and the problem I have. I'm 24 years old and male. I'm also in a wheelchair. I have congenital muscular dystrophy, which basically means my muscles don't grow as fast as they should. I'm about 1/10 the strength of the average person, I struggle to lift more than a couple lbs with both hands. This also means my muscles are shorter than they should be and the range of motion in my joints is severely limited, I can't unbend my arms and legs all the way. I should say before anything else that I've long since come to terms with not being able to walk, it doesn't bother me at all. However, there are some complications which are the basis of my problem. I am too weak to support my own weight and too frail to support the weight of another person. I can't be on top or on bottom, sexual intercourse is therefore mechanically impossible for me. I say mechanically because functionally everything else works. So, there in lies my dilemma, at least in part. The other part is something that is often overlooked by others. People in wheelchairs are generally not considered sexual entities. I blame evolution really. Instinctively, we are recognized as defective and therefore not considered possible candidates for procreation. Of course a lot of human behavior such as homosexuality goes against the evolutionary grain so to speak. That's the only reason I haven't given up hope entirely. Because of these facts I've never been in a relationship and am still a virgin. I just can't seem to find this elusive minority that would consider someone like me. I had given up and resigned myself to a sex life of self gratification. This is the part I need help with: Needless to say I've watched a lot of porn, and I've read quite a few erotic novels. Unknowingly I'd been looking for material of a rather forceful nature. Rougher sex etc. I didn't have a name to put to this flavor I wanted until I came across a few bdsm videos and books that really hit the spot. The idea of a woman writhing, helpless, unable to do anything but accept the pleasure given. Very stimulating. I fantasized and found myself in the dom role, liking the idea of control and making a woman cum more and more. I had found an outlet with possibilities. If its bdsm then there's more than just sticking a penis in a vagina. I could find a way to satisfy both myself and my partner, albeit a little creatively. Ordering my sub to please another man while I watch is a possibility- not being able to have sex wouldn't hinder anything all that much(as long as shes into it). Except, I have no idea how to go about this. How can I get something like this started? Would a someone even submit to a dom like me? Does this solve anything if I'm still not considered a possible romantic and sexual interest? I have no idea.