1. At what age did you discover BDSM?
I learned about it when I was 13, but I thought it was repulsive... Well, at least when females were being submissive. Then when I Was 18 I started learning more about my sexuality. Now I understand more about other's kinks and am more accepting.
2. Is BDSM a lifestyle or an activity?
For me, it's an activity, but for many others it's a lifestyle.
3. What is your sexual orientation?
I am heteroflexible.
4. What is your BDSM orientation?
Hmmm... I consider myself a submissive, but to be exact, I am a "switch" and a "little girl." (Google Daddy Doms and their little girls.)
5. At what age did you start to experiment with sexual activities?
Depends on what you define as sexual
Freud says that breastfeeding is sexual. I would say 13, but I didn't actually have sex until I was 16.
6. Do you think that in later years you will have more or less BDSM activity?
More.
7. Do you feel that BDSM is anti-social?
It's quite the opposite!! It can actually be quite a social activity- much like knitting circles. There's munches and other BDSM events that draw many people. People, as you can probably tell from here, don't only socialize with BDSMers that they are interested in playing with. I socialize with other little girls and Daddies on Fetlife, and I will talk about BDSM to any kinksters I meet. And since it fosters communication, socialization and many positive social skills, it is quite pro-social.
8. What is the most common BDSM activity that you do?
Ropes, spanking and baths... And yes, bubble baths are part of my play sessions.
9. Were you sexually or physically abused in your childhood?
Nope. And although this is quite offensive to ask, you should maybe do some research on this with scholarly articles... I just don't advise asking kinksters if they were sexually abused. You would not ask people if they were sexually abused if you were studying knitting circles, so you shouldn't do it here, either.
10. Do you think BDSM is dangerous?
It can be VERY dangerous... But actually, many kinksters are among the most knowledgeable people in sexual safety that I've ever met. Who else can tell you how to deal with blood borne pathogens or how to treat rope burns?? Or which things you should NOT put in your anus?
I've been hurt more having vanilla sex than I've ever been hurt doing BDSM stuff. (This is not counting the bruises and rope burns that I was planning on getting, though!)
**ADD: OH YES!! And I thought you may find this interesting...
I'm a submissive female- meaning it turns me on to have a man order me around, pull my hair, cum on me and treat me like a piece of meat.
I'm also a feminist. Male chauvenists disgust me.
I'm a "little girl"- meaning I like having a man role play as my Daddy and treat me like their "daughter."
I also am an aspiring social worker and plan on helping lock up quite a few child molesters before I die.
I have a rape, prostitution and sex slave fantasy.
Rape, prostitution and sex trafficking are major issues that I'm interested in and plan on volunteering to help sex trafficking victims. I've cried over the stories I've read about these women and children, and it disgusts me that anyone thinks this is OK.
So, IMO, this says something about BDSM. We're not sickos. We simply have sexual interests that society has deemed unacceptable. Rape, prostitution, DLG sex, female submission and slavery are sexy ONLY WHEN IT'S CONSENSUAL. I'm pretty sure that any REAL kinkster would never endorse anything that wasn't consensual- or done with minors... And a lot don't endorse real incest or beastiality.
**ADDADD: And I agree with Sebastion, you guys. Please remember that you're representing ALL OF US. She's going to think we're oversensitive, exclusive jerks if you jump down her throat like that. She's never been exposed to BDSM. Think about this from her point of view. We get off from tying eachother up, beating eachother and shitting on one another among other delicious things. She's going to make some harsh assumptions. That's OK. At least she's trying to CHANGE those assumptions. Think about it that way. Unlike a lot of the vanilla world, she realizes that she doesn't know much about us. (Please excuse the exclusive dialogue.) She wants to learn more. We should welcome her with open arms and help her!!