Has anyone ever been insulted for their lifestyle choice? I have High Functioning Autism/Asperger's/Schizoid Personality Disorder (my psychologist has never quite put her finger on it) due to a hypoxic brain injury at birth (I can pass for a normal 18 year old, however!). So I came to an early realization that my brain is wired differently for relationships. I do not see my future girlfriend/wife as a functional equal (she's definitely an ontological one though; she's not less of a person than I am!)...instead, I see her as a treasured and cherished pet, someone to be loved unconditionally and be protected at all costs, and to return that love with her devotion and service. Until death do we part ways. I thought saying this would show the leader of my former youth group at church (I've sinced changed churches to a far stricter one that yet still has love and compassion and understands things like this, not passive-aggressiveness disguised as love and compassion and fails to understand that some people are wired differently) that I'd be a great example of how to treat someone you love (we were discussing relationships and sex [i.e. an exercise in making everyone uncomfortable]). Was I wrong! He told me I was a sick perverted porn addict, and that I was condescending towards women (why then, would I want to be in a relationship with one?), and was grossly selfish and immature. I defended myself. I then got this gem of a response: "Let me make this clear... I am not a narrow-minded person when it comes to sex. In fact, I am rather broad-minded." We weren't discussing sex, we were discussing a non-sexual chaste relationship. Also, it seems that if you believe that this minor modification to an otherwise healthy vanilla relationship is "heretical", you obviously are very narrow-minded and believe that my God's kingdom is made out of balsa wood...heresy is defined as denying the deity of Christ or the Trinity in some form. Have I ever done that? No. Later: "I am not sure, even, why the last e-mail would cause you hurt?". OMG! Are you autistic?!? You've just said that the only way I'd be able to manage a relationship was heretical, and called me a sex addict and an immature person! If you can't see how that would hurt a person, you are in a far, far, far worse situation in life with interpersonal relationships than I am. He then threatened me with bringing me before the entire church. This actually made me nervous. For about 5 seconds, when I realized he didn't hve the force of character to stand before the church to announce this. I am so glad my Mom had a falling out with that church over an issue with a heretical book he picked out for a study she was leading. He called her "incompetent". So we left, and we're very happy at our new church, where the sermons are fascinating and philosophical (rather than this non-intellectual, touchy-feely, egotistical garbage we got formerly), and the pastor and elders don't act like this is the end of the world, as long as it's kept SSC, isn't abusive, and is monogamous. I'm fine with that. That guy had a SERIOUS ego problem. I'd like to know if any of you Masters/Mistresses or slaves have gotten railed upon for your lifestyle choices, so I know I'm not the only one. Also, can you guys NOT do what this one guy said "don't go to church", because that didn't help at all, nor answer my question. BTW, based on my statement in the 2nd paragraph, would I make a good, loving, kind Master? Also, what is an abusive slave? I can easily understand an abusive Master/Mistress, but I can't understand how to recognize an abusive slave. I also prefer the term "pet", rather than slave, as slave has too many unwanted, especially undesired sexual, connotations for the uninitiated. IE refering to my GF as my "pet" wouldn't cause my friends and family to bat an eye, and would seem cute. Referring to her as my "slave", however, would probably cause a backlash like the one I described above. Thanks for all you support!