Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by thinmint7, Sep 28, 2014.
Just curious to know some of your guys hard limits/soft limits.
I think mine are pretty typical for a gay kinkster: no drugs, no women, no children, no scat, no blood, no unsafe sex. I also won't do breath play or fisting, which is a little less common, I think.
Mine are pretty simple. For reasons (I'm longwinded), here are also my soft limits and things I won't do.
Hard limits (no, never): Scat, the involvement of anyone that does not/can not give consent*, objectively dangerous play**, racial fetishism
Soft limits (with the right practice/partner/timing I'd do it): Watersports, pegging, multiple partners, blood, probably other things.
Not quite limits but things I have no interest in trying, ever: Pregnancy/lactation fetish play, foot fetish play, glory hole, cuck/bull/hotwife play, and probably a lot more things.
* This includes underage, animals, and random people in the general public
** I know this is why sometimes 'safe' in SSC is debated and whatnot. By this I refer to play without safety precautions, or play which can and most likely will lead to permanent bodily harm- for example, blood play usually falls into this category
Yeah, no violation of consent is important--pretty much goes without saying.
Yes, and it's easier than saying underage, bestiality, public play, and all the other specific things that some people consider kinky that, well, aren't.
No drugs, no drunks, nothing the other partner does not want, not into blood games (knives etc), extreme violence or harm to other partner
extreme violence or harm to other partner
We no want no coke, no heroin
No hasch-hasch, no amfetamin
Mine hard limits are: anal play, crossdressing, serious cbt.
Soft limits are: ballkicking, hard and long bondage.
My hard limits are changing frequently. I thought needles, mummification, and flogging were limits, but turns out I like them all after giving them a try.
My limits change with experience, and I've found my hard limits are usually based in fear.
Current hard limits: Scat, beastiality, cutting beyond a few layers of skin, hook suspension.
Soft limits: anal, bondage, cunt torture.
That's a good point about limits. They often change and evolve as we become more experienced. I used to think that pup play was pretty weird and not something I would ever do. Now, I get why it's hot, and my slave and I have dabbled in it.
I had scat as my hard limit before. But after I was drunk and tried it with girlfriend I found out that I love it. Hard limits: no children, no vomit, no blood torture, no pretty little animals / no animals at all, no pregnant
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