So I basically just want to get some other people's thoughts on whether someone who has very strong desires to be dominated can truly be happy in a vanilla relationship? I have very strong desires to be submissive, I have a teensy bit of experience but nothing extensive but I am currently in a long term vanilla relationship with a guy who is about as vanilla as they get. I really do want to be with him but I am worried that I will always feel as though something is missing if he can't be dominant (which he really can't). Does anybody have any experience or suggestions? Is it possible to truly be happy in a vanilla relationship if you crave to be controlled?