Ok, another question, lol! I have a strong desire to be dominated and enjoy pain during sex. My husband can be pretty rough, and I love it, but he usually follows my lead and doesn't seem to care to take 'real' control and push me too my limits. He must know that many of the things we do cause pain, but it seems the instant that he suspects I'm in pain, he stops. When I say mixed signals, I mean, they're very mixed. He's bitten my nipples until the bled and was fine, but at other times he thinks he's pinched them too hard and stops. He's fucked my ass so hard (sometimes going in dry) that it hurt to sit the next day and it doesn't bother him, yet at other times, when he realizes it's hurting, he stops. He's fisted me, but sometimes fears that 3 fingers are hurting me. And when I suggested double penetration with a dildo in my pussy and him in my ass, he got very wierded out and didn't touch me for a week (although he fingers me while fucking my ass or vice versa). He'll give me 5 or 6 hard smacks, turning my ass red, but then stops because he hurt me, never giving me a real spanking session. Basically, it seems that no matter what he does, as long as I sound as though it's only pleasure, he's fine. But the minute it starts to sound like it may hurt as well (even though I'm enjoying it) he stops. He does know I like it rough, that's not in question, but I've tried to hint at how much I would enjoy him taking full control, but he doesn't quite seem to get it. I'm afraid to straight out tell him I want to be completely dominated because even some of the simple things seem to bother him (like "handcuffs aren't sexy!", etc. Do I just continue to hint at it? Do I say something? Or do I just let it go and accept it for what it is? Although I would love to have him dominate me, I am still (for the most part) satisfied sexually. Obviously, with him dominating I would like to move things a bit further, try more things... I guess I'm just very confused. Sometimes it appears as though he has it in him, but is holding back. And at other times it feels as though he must think I'm a freak. What to do?