Few questions about bondage and stuff.

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by xxstuff4uxx, Jun 27, 2008.

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  1. xxstuff4uxx

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    Well I just recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend...so i'm not that experienced.But i've always loved the thought of being dominated and tied up and stuff.Well I told him this and he was cool with it.This weekend he wants to try tying me up.What should I expect? And he's only used handcuffs in previous relationships so he's not too experienced with bondage and being dominant.Would duct tape or rope be better? He has both.Please and thank you in advanced.
     
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  3. ReallyGreen

    ReallyGreen Member

    You could rent the Nina Hartley guide to bondage DVD and watch that together. Its not really hardcore but if you're both bondage newbies theres no point in moving right into suspension bars and St.Andrew's crosses just yet IMHO.
     
  4. Stargazer

    Stargazer Member

    Almost everybody asks "Whats best?" and "What should I do?" but in all honesty, none of us lot here and none of the any other communities can help you either and here's why...

    Everybody is different. What works for one person will not work for another.

    I love gags, handcuffs (especially behind the back), straightjackets and being chained. However, while my wife has no problem putting me in any of the aforementioned forms of restraint, she hates them all used on her.

    You have to experiment and find out what works best for the two of you. If you're looking to lead a serious BDSM lifestyle, then you will need to start cold and gradually warm up over weeks/months whjile you both learn and understand what you like, dislike and how it feels in short and long term wear.

    As ReallyGreen has already said, do some reading up on the kind of things you have to explore. Buy books, browse the web, look at pictures and read short stories to get some ideas.

    At the end of the day, it's all about the two of you doing it and not any of us on the outside. Only do what you want to do and do it at the speed thats right for you. Rushing in to do something because someone else does it probably could just lead to a horrible experience and put you off trying anything again.

    Good luck!
     
  5. xxstuff4uxx

    xxstuff4uxx Guest

    Thanks for the advice.=)
     
  6. ReallyGreen

    ReallyGreen Member

    So how did you big evening go?
     
  7. xxstuff4uxx

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    T-T he didn't tie me up like he said he was going to.I was looking forward to getting tied up and spanked...but noooo...
     
  8. ReallyGreen

    ReallyGreen Member

    Awww... I'm sorry. There really is nothing like looking forward to some good D/s activities and then not going through with it. Kinda like when your parents drove past the county fair to get to the grocery store.
     
  9. xxstuff4uxx

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    I know right.I'll bring it up to him eventually.I was just really looking forward to it.He kept threatening to spank me but never went through with it.I was about to beg him lol
     
  10. bettie_slave

    bettie_slave New Member

    begging is fun :)

    right now im bound :) self bondage though as my master is long distance, just keep talking to him about it and find out what he wants x
     
  11. xxstuff4uxx

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    I'll keep talking to him about it.I'm getting ready to go stay there for a few days.And he's gonna be drinking..maybe we'll do it then.;) Wish me luck! lol
     
  12. smutty-m

    smutty-m New Member

    yeah.. just tell him what you really want. Real guys would always love to hear it.
     
  13. xxstuff4uxx

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    T-T the other night he said he was going to tie me up.It was sunday night he said that and he got me all excited..then he didn't...I was disappointed again.
     
  14. ReallyGreen

    ReallyGreen Member

    As Dan Savage would say 'DTMFA'
     
  15. xxstuff4uxx

    xxstuff4uxx Guest

    Uhhhh DTMFA?
     
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